Asking carat size…tacky or not??

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Merinda1994:  IMO it depends on the manner in which they ask. If they ask bc they are interested in that size then no not tacky but if it’s more of “giirrrllll, how many carats is that thang!?” Then yes, tacky

Post # 4
2151 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I dont mind at all when others ask me. But I would never ask someone how many carats their ring is. 

Post # 5
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Merinda1994:  I think it’s a little nosy, although it’s probably just them being curious.  I hate to be deceitful, but I just say it’s a gift and I don’t know.  I honestly couldn’t imagine asking someone that!

Post # 7
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Most if not all carat size questions I received were for competitive reasons IMO. 


The tackiest question I received was after someone looked at my ring (inspected it really) was “what does your fiance do?” Really people you are sizing up whether he can afford the ring or went broke getting it.

Post # 8
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ah, it depends. If the ring is substantially bigger than usual, I can see someone being like wow how big is that.. but I don’t remember being asked that often. 

Post # 9
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t think I’ve every been asked that!  I would feel uncomfortable asking that question to someone…I never even asked my sister about hers.  

Post # 10
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Merinda1994:  I think it depends on who is asking. I know quite a few people who would ask because they are only interested in the size. Personally, I would much rather have a stone that has great qualities, than a stone thats extremely flawed just because its bigger! Bigger isn’t always better. 

Post # 12
12873 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been asked that just once by FI’s cousin, I trust out of pure curousity.  I asked once also, out of shock and awe of my friends gorgeous nicely sized ring.  She didn’t seem offended at all and readily shared.

Post # 14
4540 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

It depends. If we’re good friends or if they’re about to get engaged and want to gauge size, then I don’t mind. 

Post # 15
2916 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If it is a close friend i don’t think it’s tacky, if it is a stranger or aquaintance then yes!

Post # 16
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think I’ve only asked once, and I meant it as a compliment! Her ring was HUGE! I think 2.5cts? It was the second biggest ring I’d ever seen in person!

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