Post # 1
My Fiance and I have talked about asking my two second cousins (daughters of 2 different cousins) to be flower girls in our wedding. They will both be 2 and a half at our wedding.
I am starting to feel awkward about asking them because although I love my cousins, I am not close to them and don’t know them well. We have a big family, live really far away, and have only seen each other at weddings and funerals. I don’t even have their phone numbers (we are all on facebook though, and comment on each others’ statuses occasionally).
Does anyone have any advice about how to make it feel less awkward? Or if I should even ask? Do you think my cousins would want their daughters to participate?
Post # 3
What’s your motivation behind asking them?
Do you want to include them because you’re fond of them?
Do you feel pressured to have a flower girl, and there’s no one closer to ask?
Do you just love the adorable little flower girl dresses and flower girl pictures? (they are adorable!)
Post # 4
@ddw: Although I am fond of them, the fondness comes from facebook albums and not much real life interaction! I don’t feel any pressure that we HAVE to have a flower girl.
So I think the real answer is, I just want a flower girl for the cuteness! And I’ve always wanted flower girls to wear wreaths on their heads.
Does that change how you think I should go about asking them?
Post # 5
@bikinihoneymoon: haha, well, if it was because you’re so fond of them, that would have made it the easiest – just gush to the parents how much you love their kids! 🙂
What if you messaged your cousin (the parent) on FB and said something like, “We’re in the market for some cute flowergirls. Know of any who might be interested?”
That way they can offer?
Post # 6
@ddw: Yes, that is a good idea. Maybe if I keep it light it won’t seem like a lot of pressure? i definitely don’t want them to feel pressured to have their kids participate. Eeek! I am procrastinating on sending the FB message. I am just going to do it!