(Closed) Asking Dad’s permission

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

SKYPE!
🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think asking permission is asking permission…if logistics prevent him from asking face-to-face, then I think asking by telephone is just FINE!!  It’s about the tradition, honor, and respect shown…

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah i would say telephone is fine as well. If it works that he can do it in person, then awsome! But otherwise work around it. Now a day most boys dont even ask…so i think even a phone call or skype would be awsome for your dad (and mom!!!)

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper

Considering the circumstances, I’d say phone is fine.

If y’all lived down the street from your parents, I’d saying phone = chicken. 🙂

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@diva81esq: if logistics prevent him from asking face-to-face, then I think asking by telephone is just FINE!!

I agree.  He’s met your parents in person at least 3 times, so it’s not like they haven’t ever met him.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

By phone is just fine assuming he’s met your parents on numerous occasions (which it sounds like he has) and logistics make face-to-face difficult to immpossible.  My DH asked my dad’s permission over the phone and my parents were just as excited as if it had been face-to-face.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My FI had to settle for a phone call even though he really wanted to have the talk in person. It just didn’t work out because my parents are 14 hours away!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I definitely think asking for permission by phone is just fine!  I may be biased, though, since my FI asked my parents over the phone.  They were vacationing in Amsterdam (they live in London right now), we lived in NY, and we weren’t going to see them for at least 6 months. 

Actually, my parents say they were really glad he called when he did since they were enjoying a romantic evening in Amsterdam and this added to the mood–and they will always fondly remember where they were when they got the call 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My dad is expecting my BF to call him, and he asks me seemingly once a week about it.  “When are you getting engaged?” “He’ll ask you before me.” “You’ll know as soon as he asks me.  When is he gonna ask?”

Maybe, just maybe, I can convince my parents to come out here for my birthday again (mid-November), since I’m going to his parents’ for Thanksgiving.  That way he can ask my dad in person (BF is quite traditional), I can meet his family, and he can propose anytime after that point

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My FI asked my dad by phone because my dad lives far away. We didn’t really have plans to visit him anytime soon. It worked out just fine. My father is very traditional and was very pleased to hear from my FI.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My FI asked my dad by phone because my dad lives far away. We didn’t really have plans to visit him anytime soon. It worked out just fine. My father is very traditional and was very pleased to hear from my FI.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

My husband asked my dad over the phone too. He just couldn’t get my dad by himself. I think it’s completely fine!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@Mrs.KMM:

So it’s OK to do it over the phone if they’ve met in person before, what if it’s only once? Just curious. My BF met my dad, and then dad moved 2,000 miles away….

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

over the phone is fine unless it is easily accessible for him to meet them face to face. actually, that’s the part that my BF is really dreading…he really does NOT want to have that conversation because he believes it’s going to be super awkward. is that normal?

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