- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Did you tell your boyfriend specifically that you wanted him to ask your Dad’s permission first before proposing to you?
Did he do it on his own?
Or not at all. I think some people think that’s old fashion these days, do you still think it’s tradition, do people still do that? I have no clue.
but so my question is, do they need to be told?
his friends are not married and as single as they get. I’m hoping his parents or family would tell him to do it so i wouldn’t have to, but I worry about it.
Even just a phone call would be better than nothing. But I don’t want to tell him to do it, I just want him to do it.
They are not that close, and I don’t think he has seen him since May and I know it didn’t happen then. He could be a bit intimidated by my Dad but my Dad is one of my best friends in the world he means a lot to me. Since my sisters husband asked my dad I don’t want him to resent my boyfriend for not doing it if he doesn’t. I also think it could be a hold up for him and why he hasn’t proposed yet because my dad was out of town for so long or just cause he’s more scared of that answer than my own. But then again I just have no clue what’s going on or if he even knows to do that. Hoping he’s not worried about it at all or has already done it. But…he’s a boy. He drags feet. And there’s a high possibility he would just skip it so he doesn’t have to. I could see that happening.
do you think he will just do it? should I blurt it out? I try not to talk wedding talk so he thinks that I don’t know that it’s coming so he can surprise me. sigh.
how about leaving a little piece of paper with my dads cell phone number on it next to the ring box? I know where the ring is. And he knows I know where it is because he doesn’t care I know where it is. he’d probably love it if i just wore it and started planning away.
So as much as I don’t want to make him, if he proposed and didn’t ask my dad I wouldn’t know what to do. I would be like go back in time!!!!!
which I don’t want to happen.
and hopefully this is all completely normal feelings that everyone goes though.
I don’t think my Dad will give him a hard time at all, my Dad is the nicest guy. I think my parents only worries are if he is going to marry me or not, I think my Dad would be really excited if he finally did come to him and confess how much he loves me and promises to take care of me. He shows it though, thats for sure. for him that’s enough, I don’t know if that is enough for my Dad. And to me having my Dad walk me down the isle and being asked for permission are his roles in this wedding/marriage that I want to be special for him too. unfortunately that part is out of my hands and all in his.
oh my, am I just trying to control somthing out of my control? yikes. I want to let him do his thing and back away, but it does worry me.
not so sure what to do?