Post # 1
I am currently in a contest to win free wedding photography (which is great- I’m very excited) but the voting system requires asking lots of people to help and vote for us. Is it bad if I ask friends to vote that I probably won’t invite to the wedding? I actually want a smallish to medium size wedding but I need votes to win. So that’s a dilemma. What do you think? Will they understand that I can’t invite everyone to the wedding even if I wanted to do so? Is it bad taste to ask them to help me?
Post # 3
I don’t think so but maybe word it like that to friends “Im having a small wedding and I entered a contest where I need votes.” Then you sort of set expectations up front. My friends have asked me to vote for things like cutest pet, kid, etc where I know there is no party but still I didn’t get anything. I was just being a friend.
Post # 4
I think it’s in slightly poor taste, although I know people do a lot worse. I’ve been invited to showers where gifts are clearly expected, but then gotten a very smiley “I hope you understand that we have limited capacity and can’t invite everyone to the wedding” speech. At least you’re not doing that!
If I were in the contest, I wouldn’t ask non-invitees to vote, but that’s me. I’ve been trying not to talk too much about my wedding to people I know I can’t invite. If you do it, chances are not everyone will be thrilled to jump right in, but I don’t think it’s a huge faux-pas.
Post # 5
If you mass post it on Facebook no big deal. People do it all the time. If you email it out I would stick to the guest list and add a note to them to forward it on to whoever they think would vote. Good luck!!