Asking for alternative Wedding Gifts?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Lopeza88:  Short answer? Yes it is inappropriate to ask for monetary gifts. It is actually inappropriate to ask for any gifts.

That obviously does not apply to registers for showers, which, by definition, are a gift giving event.

If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t register. If anyone asks, tell them you have what you need for your home but are saving for ___.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Lopeza88:  No I dont think it is. Its all how you convey it. We have registered for an alternative registry called Honeyfund. It can be used for honeymoon fund, any type of cash wedding gift! even Raising money for a down payment.

On our wedding website say the following:

In our home, we have all of the things that living together for 4 years brings. Toasters and towels we have bought and because of this we thought, that a honeymoon fund would be great but only if you choose to participate. And when our honeymoon is done, we will sincerely thank you for all the fun!”

There are also other registries where you can sign up, customize a house and start saving towards a home down payment, renovation or decor.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Maybe it’s a different custom where I’m from (Sask. Canada – small town) but, we just didn’t register. Honestly, everyone we invited to our wedding knows we’ve been living together for 3 years, they know we have everything we need – when we get asked what we’d like as a gift we say “just you’re presence, we want to share our day with you!” and if they keep probing, I say “we’ve been living together for a while so have everything we need, but we are going on a honeymoon and value experiences like that!” And they usually get the hint after that. I have some aunts who are really “physical gift” givers, so I verbally gave them ideas, but for the most part – people should understand when you don’t register, it’s because you really don’t need anything. I do think it’s a little inappropriate to ask for cash on your invitation or whatever. Just my two cents! 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Lopeza88:  Don’t register anywhere, if people want to give gifts they will.  We didn’t register and people still sent what they thought we would need.  I hate the idea of registering because to me it’s like a gift grab.  I know it’s become socially acceptable, but I still hate the idea of them for me.  I’ll buy something off of someone else’s registry no problem, but I hate registering for stuff for us.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not registering is a good suggestion, but I think people are pretty stuck in their habits and few guests will be swayed by you no matter what you do or say.  People who typically give money will just give money, those who give boxed-gifts will probably still you give a boxed gift.  Whatever you do, please don’t make guests feel uncomfortable about bring a boxed gift by saying “Monetary gifts preferred”.        

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I didn’t register, and 90% of people gave us cash.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Try Zola! You can create a beautiful honeymoon fund there. 

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