Post # 1
I dont want to sound ungratful or picky, but my fi and I already have everything we could need but SPACE for our stuff! We moved in together from our own apartements and are running out of space fast! We are going to be looking for houses and want to move in either right before or right after the wedding. (2/27/15) Of course, planning a wedding, we are burning through cash, not to mention we havent booked a honeymoon yet. This is something we’ve been struggling with for a while and as time has passed. Would it be totally tacky to ask for monetary gifts? We would love a little help to get us into our dream home, but if we do how would we do it? All opinions and advice/alternatives are welcome!
Post # 2
Lopeza88: Short answer? Yes it is inappropriate to ask for monetary gifts. It is actually inappropriate to ask for any gifts.
That obviously does not apply to registers for showers, which, by definition, are a gift giving event.
If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t register. If anyone asks, tell them you have what you need for your home but are saving for ___.
Post # 3
Lopeza88: No I dont think it is. Its all how you convey it. We have registered for an alternative registry called Honeyfund. It can be used for honeymoon fund, any type of cash wedding gift! even Raising money for a down payment.
On our wedding website say the following:
“In our home, we have all of the things that living together for 4 years brings. Toasters and towels we have bought and because of this we thought, that a honeymoon fund would be great but only if you choose to participate. And when our honeymoon is done, we will sincerely thank you for all the fun!”
There are also other registries where you can sign up, customize a house and start saving towards a home down payment, renovation or decor.
Post # 4
Maybe it’s a different custom where I’m from (Sask. Canada – small town) but, we just didn’t register. Honestly, everyone we invited to our wedding knows we’ve been living together for 3 years, they know we have everything we need – when we get asked what we’d like as a gift we say “just you’re presence, we want to share our day with you!” and if they keep probing, I say “we’ve been living together for a while so have everything we need, but we are going on a honeymoon and value experiences like that!” And they usually get the hint after that. I have some aunts who are really “physical gift” givers, so I verbally gave them ideas, but for the most part – people should understand when you don’t register, it’s because you really don’t need anything. I do think it’s a little inappropriate to ask for cash on your invitation or whatever. Just my two cents! 🙂
Post # 5
Lopeza88: Don’t register anywhere, if people want to give gifts they will. We didn’t register and people still sent what they thought we would need. I hate the idea of registering because to me it’s like a gift grab. I know it’s become socially acceptable, but I still hate the idea of them for me. I’ll buy something off of someone else’s registry no problem, but I hate registering for stuff for us.
Post # 6
Not registering is a good suggestion, but I think people are pretty stuck in their habits and few guests will be swayed by you no matter what you do or say. People who typically give money will just give money, those who give boxed-gifts will probably still you give a boxed gift. Whatever you do, please don’t make guests feel uncomfortable about bring a boxed gift by saying “Monetary gifts preferred”.
Post # 7
Ok, great advice. Thank yall, I am just happy with everyone showing up, but Im already getting questions for gifts and really dont want people wasting their time getting me a gift I may not even use.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I didn’t register, and 90% of people gave us cash.
Post # 9
Try Zola! You can create a beautiful honeymoon fund there.