- 2 years ago
I’m 22 (23 in Nov) and boyfriend is 24 (25 in sept). We’ve been in a LDR for almost a year and a half, and have been planning about marriage, steps in getting a visa to marry, and he’s bought a house for us to live in when we’re married. I’ve already been to his country many times and met with family and friends. But he hasn’t met my family (only met my friends) when he stops by to my country, because I didn’t feel ready yet as it was still during the first 3 months we were together.
He’s coming over for a weekend this week and will be officially meeting my mum (dad deceased) and sister. My aunt and mum is flying to where he lives a few days after, to meet with his family for a few days. (without me as I have classes) He’ll then come back to my country for 2 weeks, will be attending a relative’s wedding together and he’ll meet with all of my relatives (about 70 of them) at the same night.
Now, the trip that my mum and aunt has booked for was only planned today. (completely out of the blue) I have no problems with it as I have intended for my mum to go there and meet the boyfriend’s family but I wanted to plan it when I have my semester breaks, but that’s okay. But because it is sudden, my boyfriend now has to ask for my mum’s blessing before she goes to meet his family (because his family has already asked us to get married and his mum will be talking about this to my mum)
Boyfriend was initially going to ask for my mum’s blessing during the 2 weeks he’s here, when he already has the ring to propose and when my mum has already met him several times (he’s getting the ring next week, currently out of his country for work) Which means now he will be asking for my mum’s blessing this weekend when she’s meeting him for the first time. Has that happened to you? Is it okay or weird to ask for someone’s blessing at the first meeting?
My mum also already knows we want to get married, she just doesn’t know he’s proposing soon.
(I do want him to ask for my mum’s blessing as a sign of respect to my mum, not for anything else.)