Asking for blessing at the first meeting

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

HoneyV:  My own personal opinion is that it would be weird to put her in that position. I am guessing that you have told her a lot about him so maybe that will help. I can’t imagine she would just say “absolutely not”. Would he/you be hurt if she said she wanted to know him more before giving her blessing? Would you be willing to wait? ultimately, you know her best. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t quite understand why he has to ask before she meets his family. Why can’t his mum and your mum talk about a possible wedding and he ask later? Your mum already knows you are planning to marry, so that won’t be a shock.

Do you and your mum have a good relationship? Can you warn her that this is coming and to be prepared for the conversationS with his mother? It doesn’t have to be a surprise you know. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

HoneyV:  It makes perfect sense that your mother should know before your aunt. I also better understand why it would be awkward to meet his family without him asking her for permission.

Unfortunately you have no choice but for him to ask at their first meeting. You could get him to say something along the lines of “I know this is a bit of an odd question, given that we have just met, but with you meeting my family soon there is no better time, would you give your blessing…” He could even say that she doesn’t have to give him the answer until after meeting his family to try and make it a little less weird, but that might be torture for the two of you. 

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