Asking for "financial donations" in lieu of Christmas presents?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4395 posts
Honey bee

@LynnSnow:  fully agree with you. I’m glad I haven’t seen any of this on my Facebook feed. 

Post # 4
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I think I would have to block those people from my news feed at the least. Just… ugh.

Post # 5
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I haven’t seen any of that, but I’d be blocking that mess from my feed!

Post # 7
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@LynnSnow:  This year I had nothing I ”needed” so when my mom called to ask me what I wanted for Christmas, I didn’t know what to tell her. I gave her many options of gift cards from the stores I purchase the most, but also told her money for savings would be appreciated. But on Facebook ? *scratches head* It’s weird !

And I totally agree about the kids. Unless you know the parents have an education fund/account for their kids and you can write a check for this account with the kid’s name. That’s what I considered doing for my godson when he was born. I wanted to give a fair amount toward his education but I suspected the money would not have served this purpose. I’m waiting currently to get the info about the education fund and that’s where the check is going. 

Post # 8
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@LynnSnow:  I asked my sister last year if there was anything in particular her husband would like for Christmas before I used my imagination and went and bought something. She asked for money for him for tattoos. Um, yeah, no. I’m not your Grandma who will give you money in a card for Christmas and your birthday. I’d just given them hundreds of dollars in cash for their wedding as well (which she strictly requested I do).  When I told her that I didn’t see much point in handing each other $50 for Christmas and that we should perhaps just spend some money on ourselves rather than do that she got snippy with me and said it was his choice what he wanted for Christmas. Yes it is. It is also MY choice what I give.

Post # 9
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@LynnSnow:  I have to agree with you. On the one hand, it would be an amazing gift to alleviate some of the stress of food/shelter/childcare/etc from a needy family, but on the other hand, Christmas presents (for me and mine) is not about a dollar amount. So asking for money instead of gifts is just incredibly tacky.

I think a better way to do Christmas when you’re in need would be to ask for gift baskets with food, some babysitting, some clothing, or other helpful/practical things.

And as for your friend who is “struggling” while paying for tattoos and TTC, that’s a bit of a joke. You should send each of her 5 kids a toy that makes a f**k ton of noise.

Post # 10
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Begging is something people do when they are BROKE…

Dead Broke… as in no food, no shelter… No Hope

Kind of Broke

I have experience with that kind of broke… and the people who live that every day

The kind of Broke that goes… Food – Shelter – or Warmth… YOU ONLY GET ONE

And sadly there are more than enough of those people in need in this world.

This type of on-line modern Begging / Fundraising when the person isn’t BROKE…

But rather just want “better goodies” is RUDE

All the time… no excuses… 100% ALWAYS RUDE



Post # 12
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That makes my head explode! No, thank you!

Post # 13
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you send a punch in the nose through the mail?

Post # 16
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LynnSnow:  wow – i thought you were going to ask about asking family members for cash donations for the wedding in lieu of Christmas gifts (Which I have jokingly suggested to both my parents and my siblings).

I have never seen someone post something like this to facebook.  I would find it INCREDIBLY tacky.  To feel it’s okay to post that you’re expecting people to give you gifts on facebook is bad enough but to ask for cash?  That’s enough to make me not want to give you anything…

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