- 4 years ago
Kind of a rant, kind of wondering if anyone else has experience with this.
I am not sure if I am the only one whose facebooks friends have jumped on this bandwagon or what, but I have seen as least 5 posts since Thanksgiving saying something along the lines of “Hey friends/family, if you will be sending something for Christmas or birthdays, we ask that you send financial donantions. Thank you.”
Now, the people posting this are parents, so I would like to think that the money would go to buying toys for their kids, but then why not post your kid’s Christmas list if you’re going to mention gift giving on Facebook. But man, I feel like asking someone to make a “financial donation” in lieu of Christmas presents is basically like saying “Hey instead of buying my kids junk that I don’t want to deal with, send me money, because we need money.”
Trust me, I totally understand why money would be more appealing, especially since it would hopefully go to paying rent, buying clothes and food, and other needed things. It is a practical way to look at the situation, your kids don’t NEED a new toy, but they NEED food, shelter, and clothes – but at the same time, your kids are kids and they want to open Christmas presents and have new toys too! So I am really torn about this…then my cynical side kicks in and says “How do you even know they’d spend the money on their kids?” And honestly, some of the people who posted this I think would spend it on themselves.
But the one that really gets me is the mom of four little girls ages 2-7, and a newborn, asking for a “financial donation” and when asked for more details, says that money is super tight and that they are struggling to even get by, and how she had to quit her job to stay home with the little ones because child care was too expensive (which childcare IS expensive). But then not two days later posts about how she wants another baby and that she and her hubby are TTC. It just doesn’t seem responsible! If you can barely afford to take care of the 5 children you already have, and have resorted to asking for “financial donations” for Christmas and birthday gifts, why would you think it wise to try and bring yet another mouth to feed into this world? (Also it makes me wonder how she can afford new tattoos and new piercing every other month…)
I can see some people asking this because they really need it, and feel like they have no other options, but then I think someone people see this and think “quick way to make extra cash!” at the expense of their child/ren.
I know other people’s finances are none of my business, but when they bring it to attention, it is really hard not to formulate your own opinions on the matter. So, have any of you seen these types of posts recently? What are your thoughts on this?