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Asking for money for bridesmaid dresses

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
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    jgkane    9-26-09  

    I ordered and paid for the dresses for all 6 of my bridesmaids in order to get the order in quickly (it was a rush order).  

    Is there any etiquette I need to follow around asking my bridal party for reimbursement?  They all are aware of the price and aware that they will be paying.

     

     
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    kazoochair       Kalamazoo, Mi

    I'd just send an email.  The Dresses Are In...Ask them to pick them up and try them on.  Then a gentle reminder of the amount due.  It'll be OK

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I think an email or a call letting the ladies know that their dresses have arrived and what the final amounts were should be enough.  If they already expect to pay you for them, that should be fine.

     
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    pvaulter718    September 5, 2009   Pennsylvania

    Did they know when they were going to owe you the money?  As long as they've been aware and know that the dresses were coming in soon, I see no issues. 

    I would suggest calling them individually and letting them know that the dresses are due to arrive, and that you just wanted to remind them that the total was ___, and as them what the easiest way is for them to get you the money.  Check, Cash, Paypal, etc.

     
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    jgkane    9-26-09  

    Thanks Ladies.  They all know they are expected to pay for the dresses and the estimated costs, so I guess this is no biggie.  I figured it was okay to just politely ask, but I wanted to make sure. :)

     
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    msduck    August 2009  

    yah i would just say hey the dress is in, come over to try it on, the amount is X and you can give me cash or check....... or something like that

     
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    caserulzall    July 25 2009   Edmonton AB Canada

    If they are aware they are paying for them, Than I would have no problems :)

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    Just ask.  No rules apply.  Don't be shy about it - just give them a date you expect the money by and tell them in what form (cash/check).  Then follow-up with those that don't respond or pay... hopefully you won't have to deal with it.  

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    KolaBee    9/27/2009   Brooklyn/ Queens, NY

    Yup, knowing ahead of time is key! I did the same, and pretty much said by email: "Hey ladies, let me know when you can pay for the dress, I'm ordering them on ____, I'd like to get all of the payments by _____. If this won't work for you, let me know and we can work something else out. "

    If they didn't answer the emial, I'd call or text- "Hey there, when do you think you'll be able to pay for the dress? Let me know if you need to pay ____ this month, and ____ next month, or _______.

    Some of my ladies needed to pay me in portions, others paid all at once. 

     
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    jgkane    9-26-09  

    Yeah, I can tell that it depends on the personality.  One of my bridesmaids is super-together, and she gave me a check like, two days after the dresses came in.  The others will probably wait.  Part of me is like, hmmm, I should get the checks now...before they start doing alterations and then think, hell, this is costing me a lot of money!!! LoL

     
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    socalbride86    July 7, 2010   Chicago

    You should just send them a group email (or have your MOH) do it about the price of the dresses and that they can send you a check or give your cash, etc. Just be up front. And in the future, I would not pre pay for anything because that can cause problems...

     

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