Post # 1
When is the best time to give the wedding invitations out??? I am getting married 11th May 2013…..So have been wondering when is the best time for my guests to have them!??Also As my partner and myself have been together for 12yrs (long overdue to get we now ) A few people have recommended putting poems in with the invitations about guests giving money instead of presents, to go towards honeymoon or something special for us to have, meaning we have lived together all this time and have what we need……Me and my H2B on the other hand feel this may come across as quite rude asking guests for money?? Views and Opinions on this PLEASE! xxxx
I prefer to not have anything or too much of the same thing than to ask or tell my guests what they should be giving me as a gift….ALL i ask really is for them to be there to help celebrate and be happy for us! xx
Post # 3
The only proper way to say anything about money instead of gifts is by word of mouth, and even that has to be done tastefully (by telling the people close to you to spread it around, so it doesn’t come directly from you two).
It’s generally considered very rude to put something like that on the invite.
Post # 4
You never write anything about gifts ON the invite.
Post # 5
Don’t put anything on the invite or with the invites about gifts/money. Also, do not send your invites out until March, at the earliest.
Post # 6
not much you can do, just hope that people will give you money based on your long time together. never mention “gifts” on any invites…
my husband and I are both older, own 4 homes, and didn’t really need much. We got lots of cash, gift cards and gift certificates for restaurants, and specialty wine and beer..
Post # 7
@Elldes: Yup, word of mouth is the only way to go. You’ll put people off by including a request for cash.
Post # 8
Aside from not registering and letting a few close friends know to spread the word, I think your hands are tied.
Post # 10
@Elldes: People are not going to like this. Don’t mention anything about gifts at all. I think we all WANT money, but people are going to give what they’re going to give. If people ask what you want, then you can tell them.
Post # 11
Don’t do it!! Just don’t register for gifts. When people ask where you’re registered, you can say “we chose not to register” and they will most likely translate that into “we’d prefer cash” or they’ll buy a gift that they chose personally, and that’s cool, too.
Post # 12
Thank U ALL……This is exactly wot my reaction was when my friends said this to me…….I prefer to not have anything or too much of items than to ask or tell them what they should be giving me as a gift….ALL i ask really is for them to be there to help celebrate and be happy for us! xx
Post # 13
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@Elldes: No no no. Go with your gut, its right. Just dont register and when people ask your family and friends have them explain that you have eveything you want but would love help paying for your honeymoon.
Post # 14
OMG. Do not do that!! It’s considered “rude” to request gifts or discuss them in any way shape or form on the invitation. You can do a honeyfund as a registry and its a “cash registry”
Post # 15
@Elldes: I know a couple of people that do this and I don’t find it being rude. People have there own opinon….blah, blah, blah and I’m actually doing to for my vow renewal. You can go look up poems to put in the invite. Just google wishing well poems. I actually asked some of my family members would the find it rude and they said no. I say do what you want if they find it rude then they don’t have to give anything.
Post # 16
BTW……someone please tell me why it’s rude to ask for gifts. Where is that stated? Why do gift registries?