(Closed) Asking for money

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I don’t see how you could do that without appearing rude.  Sorry.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nope, lol. Unfortunately, I don’t think there’s any good way to do that! The only thing you can do is not register anywhere and just pass it along by word of mouth that you’re “saving for a house” or “saving for the honeymoon”. I would DEFINITELY not put anything in the invitation asking for money.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We don’t have a housewares registry and have only created a honeymoon registry as we are saving for a home and want money instead of gifts. We just put that information on our website and included our URL in the invites. I think other than word of mouth, it’s the least rude way of doing it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Unfortunately it is a big no no to put that on your invitations.  You can let your family know so they can spread the word but otherwise it appears rude and selfish.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@lilperiwinkle: We are going to a friend’s wedding this weekend and at the bottom of the invite in small writing it said:

In consideration of the fact we are moving, in lieu of gifts we would prefer a gift certificate to the Hudson’s Bay Company or presentation.

presentation=cash (I had to google it, hah!)

I honestly didn’t think it was tacky or rude. If they didn’t say it I would have gone out and bought them so houseware they didn’t really didn’t need.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Selfish is a bit harsh.  It’s the “expectation” of gifts/money for you and your FI that people get offended and believe it’s rude and some even think selfish.

My suggestion is to make a post on your website about saving for a house and tell family to pass it along.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Totally didn’t mean that to come out as harsh.  Sorry about that

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It is pretty well documented in the hive that most people don’t approve of listing registries on the invite or asking for money in general, so asking for money on an invite is probably not going to get you the reassurance you seem to be looking for. I second the idea of posting something worded better on your website, or just use good old fashioned word of mouth.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I know a couple that had a wedding website…and they had a section where you could donate towards their honeymoon instead of having where they were registered…I dont remember anyone being particularly offended…but maybe I was just oblivious…

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Obviously everyone going to a wedding (or most) are expecting they will bring a gift/money but generally people don’t like to be told what they have to give someone as a gift. If a couple I knew didn’t register, it would be obvious to me that they don’t want anyTHING so I would give $$$. Even if I heard word of mouth they wanted money, I’d be cool with that. I get it. However, if the couple spelled it out for me in an invite, I’d still give them money, but I’d give them less money because I’d be put off by the in-your-face nature of their money request. You wouldn’t straight up ask your guests for money to their face, so why print it out on an invitation you send them? It doesn’t compute for me, sorry.

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