Post # 1
I’m graduating in early June with my MSW so I’ve been actively applying for jobs since February. I was starting to get pretty frightened because no one was calling me for even an interview. I finally got a call from a job I’m interested in and had a promising interview on Friday. I should find out early next week if they’re going to offer me the job and if they do, I am going to accept.
This is my problem: every summer, SO and I drive to Michigan to his family’s lake house and spend a few days there. It’s a treasured tradition with his entire family and something I really look forward to. I had no idea if I was going to get a job, so we told the family we’d be going for a week in mid-August.
I pretty much assumed that if I got a job, I’d just cut my losses and go next year, even though I’d be really sad to miss it. Since it requires no plane tickets or reservations, it wouldn’t be a financial loss. When I mentioned this to my SO, he was really sad. He is really pushing me to at least ask for the week off. I feel guilty because he works really hard and this is something so special to him. It’s also very special to me, I’ll admit!
I really don’t want to start a new job out on a bad foot. If I get offered this position, should I ask for the week off…even though it would only be about 2 months after I’d be starting? Or should I just accept that it’s not a good time and let it go? If I do ask, when and how should I ask? I would want to make it very clear that it’s not a dealbreaker for me. I will happily go on no vacation if that’s what I need to do in order to get a job!
Help meeee! 🙂
ETA: I also want to make it clear that I would not be asking for paid time off, as I wouldn’t have accrued any yet anyway 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
Instead of asking specifically for that time off, perhaps ask about the company’s policy on vacation leave? Like how much time you get off and what the protocol is for requesting it. And I feel you on how nerve-wracking it can be to ask for time off at a new job!
Post # 4
If it was me in the position, I would not. Right now I’m applying for teaching positions for the coming school year. I just graduated this January and have been working as an assistant so it would be my first head teacher position and that’s a big deal. My husband’s father is getting remarried and he scheduled the wedding for August 6 so everyone could go. Then randomly they rescheduled the wedding for right at the beginning of the school year when the students are going to come. I told my husband outright that while they have every right to get married when they want I absolutely will not be requesting the days a few weeks into my first teaching job, leaving plans for a sub. That would reflect so poorly on me and I won’t do it. So that’s my two cents – this year being an assistant I did take off days for things but next year having my first real important job I know I want to be taken more seriously and like a teacher that can be relied on.
Post # 5
@parasol: That is true, I could phrase it that way. But at the same time, if I am going to ask, I want to make sure they know I’m being upfront about it (and that I’m totally fine with them saying no if need be. Job > vacation, haha).
It’s so scary to ask. This will be my first big girl job (I went straight through school) and so I’m going in totally blind as to what’s appropriate and what’s not.
Post # 6
@star_dust: Yes, this is pretty much what is going through my head. I want to come off as a reliable, committed employee. I wouldn’t even think twice about this if it weren’t for my SO! I just want to make him happy and he seemed so sad at the thought of me not going!
Post # 7
Are there other young employees at the firm you could ask about this? I would ask them how it would be perceived. How this kind of thing is viewed varies a lot by company culture.
Post # 8
@coastalbee88: Not that I know of, yet :/ I’ve only met the panel that interviewed me and it didn’t seem appropriate to inquire about vacation time during that process.
Post # 9
I did this. I had a trip planned to visit my mister in Michigan for a week and then got a job offer. When I accepted, I told them I had a pre-planned vacation (which was about 2 months after my start date) and they were totally cool with it. I had intended on taking the time unpaid, but I found out after I returned that I had accrued enough vacation and personal time to cover the full week (they also “advanced” my May hours to make this work, unbeknownst to me)!
I would just bring it up if and when an offer is made. Most employers understand that travel arrangements typically are made well in advance and are accomodatiing.
Post # 10
When I was hired 2 years ago at my “big girl” job I told them up front I had a family vacation planned to go to Florida and they were fine with it I just had to take it unpaid. I wouldn’t wait until your hired to ask.
Post # 11
I know a few people in this situation, they always mentioned the vacation during hiring and were always allowed to take it. Even my friemd who didn’t get vacation days for a year. They are going through a lot of candiates and if they pick you from all of them, they will probably be able to make some concessions to keep you.