(Closed) Asking for your money back from a bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i dont think u can force her to pay.. if she completely refuses to but in that case i would ask her to step down then cos she isnt keeping her word

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I’m thinking that you aren’t going to be seeing that money unfortunately. And you don’t want to bother the bride with that nonsense. For the bridal shower, maybe you could make a point to give the bride a card from the bridesmaids and not put her name down. It’s a really terrible situation to be in, but there isn’t much you can do.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Unfortunately, this seems to happen a lot.  As for the bridal shower, maybe she contribute in some way other than giving $$?

I think all you can do is keep asking her for the $$.  You could even tell her it is ok if she pays in installments or something.  Maybe that way, you’ll at least get something back.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Wait, did she back out of being a bridesmaid? Or just backed out of participating in events?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I guess we would have to know more about the situation. Did something happen, an unexpected expense come up, did she lose her job or have her hours cut? If it’s anything like that, then I really think a decent person would just eat the costs and not hold a grudge that someone didn’t pay up.

And you say pay you back…how did this happen? Did she tell you before the event she would have to pull out, and you went ahead and had it, covered her portion, and are now trying to get it back?

I honestly don’t think you’re going to get your money back. And I would stop with the sternly worded emails…it was a verbal agreement, not a legal contract. The “sterner” you are with her, the less likely she will be to pay you back. Write it off, if she pays you it will be a pleasant surprise.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would just forget about it. She did told you she couldn’t pay.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ugh. Well, that’s about 200 miles north of annoying, but I don’t think you’re going to see the money. What you could do is tell her that you can’t afford it either which is why you all decided to chip in.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is it a lot of money? I would give up at this point and remember for the future that she’s like this.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

oh…well, that does suck. I thought from your post she gave you a heads up before the event that she wouldn’t be contributing.

Still, I don’t think there’s much you can do. If she’s a friend of yours as well as the bride, you might get it at some later point, but if she’s a friend of the bride you don’t know, I would write it off. It’s too bad people don’t pay up, but it happens.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That’s not a bad way to look at it.

 

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