Post # 1
Ready to help me out with this doozy?! Well My FI and I have been living with each other for over a year so we have EVERYTHING you can think of for our home. adding anything else would simply be a waste of money AND space!
So the honey and I want to go to Napa next year for the honeymoon, we would really be so much more grateful if for the gifts that the guests give us could be a small donation to our honeymoon. It would help us so much and be the best present!
But how to tell the guests? We arent going to register anywhere since we dont want anything….so what to do!?
Post # 3
There have been some posts about this and it is pretty divided on whether or not people feel like doing a honeymoon registry is “tacky” or not (I hate that word, hence the quotation marks). I’m doing a honeymoon registry (through Honeyfund.com) but I’m also doing a more traditional registry for guests who don’t want to use the honeymoon registry or who prefer to give more traditional gifts. I don’t think that going only with a honeymoon registry is a good idea because some people – especially older relatives – just won’t get it.
P.S. – Glad you decided on Napa! You won’t regret it I promise.
Post # 4
I would just kinda do it by word of mouth. We didn’t do a registry and we got mainly money for the wedding, we even said ah we dont’ want anything. We had a few people write ‘use this on your honemoon’ on their card. So if you kinda just drop a few words to people I think the news will spread just fine on it’s own and no honeyfund needed.
Post # 5
It is so common in Australia to have a Honeymoon Registry.
You go to a travel agent and plan your honeymoon, they give you a bunch f cards with ref no on them to put in your invite envelopes, The guests then go to the travel agent and add to the account. On the wedding day they give you a voucher from the Travel agent. It’s not tavky its a fab idea. I am sure it will catch on in the US if more brides are willing to take the rsk
Post # 6
We are in the same boat as you. I think we are going to hope that guests will help with our honeymoon, too, but we’ll also have a couple of registry with few items on there for people who just prefer to give gifts. It won’t be as bad for us as our wedding is on the smaller side (100) and most of the people are mainly family, so we shouldn’t offend too many people.
You can register with honeyfund, like previous pp mentioned, and word of mouth as previously suggested, too. If you have a website and have the registry info on it, you can give the url on the STD/invites, and people can find out that way, too.
Hope that gives you some ideas. 🙂
Post # 7
We have 4 registries set up, but there isn’t a lot of stuff on them (I just like a wide variety) and I’m actually considering taking even more items off the registries and doing a honeyfund. That’s what we really want above pots and pans. We live in a one bedroom apartment with a kitchen smaller than most peoples closets, so it’s silly for us to get a bunch of kitchen items we would have to keep at my parents house.
Post # 8
It’s considered rude to do so and countless people agree. There isn’t any way to ask people without offending them since most would prefer that you scale back to something you can afford. If someone offers to pay for something, that’s one thing, but you never ask anyone to pay for your honeymoon.
Post # 9
I think it definitely depends on your guests and the size of your guest list. For a smaller, intimate wedding, word of mouth could work very well. If you don’t have many traditional guests, an official honeymoon registry like honeyfund would be good. Our friends were so excited about the idea of a honeymoon registry. Some older relatives had reservations. I think you are going to get a variety of opinions here but should ultimately think about what your particular guests might say. I tried to feel out guests from his family, mine and mutual friends to understand their opinions.
Post # 10
Ember78 – So I should request they pay for useless crap that I would ultimately return? That doesnt seem to make much sense to me either!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA
These days, I think it’s totally fine to do a honeymoon registry, otherwise why would there be so many companies out there doing it? It’s a fact that many guests will want to give you something, even if you tell them ‘no gifts,’ so you might as well stear them toward what you’ll actually use.
As a couple ladies stated already, just maybe having a backup registry with a few non-honeymoon items on it would be a good idea for the more traditional guests. We did a second one through Amazon, and put stuff we’ll actually use on it, like sleeping bags, our college team themed pool balls and suitcases.
Post # 12
What if you set up a PayPal account and in your bridal shower invites (or the like), put that you’re “registered” with Paypal and that you would really enjoy donations to the HM rather than the things you don’t need. You can definitely do that in a tactful manner! I’ve heard of a couple of times. There’s actually a website that sets up an account for HM donations, but I can’t think of what it’s called..
Post # 13
We used honeyfund.com and a lot of people gave us a check that we were supposed to use for the honeymoon. It’s free and easy to set up, and I found out about it through weddingbee. You could probably do a search for it and read more about it posted here.
We also had the traditional registries (Crate and Barrel, Macys), but not with a lot of things on them.
Post # 14
We’re going with Traveler’s Joy.com
We too have a rediculously small apartment and aren’t moving anytime soon, fiance is going back to school a few months after the wedding, and we have everything we can fit. Anything superfluous items would literally go in the storage unit which is packed as well. We also LOVE to travel and are trying to live our lives through experiences rather than things. I know it’s cheesy but we’ve done some cool things since we adopted that attitude. Of course we have our weaknesses, we order in way more than we eat out ect, but on sometime like this, we want to have an amazing vacation. We also have a decent amount of guests, half the wedding about, coming in from out of state and who wants to check in a gift?! We are going to have a small registry at Macy’s with things on it we can use and can in ways replace other things so as not to add bulk to our collection of kitchen/household things, but are hoping Traveler’s Joy will pull through for us. Truthfully, we already booked a vacation we can’t afford. I know, bad idea, but I got carried away 🙁
Post # 15
We have a honeymoon registry set up!! No one has bought anything yet, lol, but we have until March. We also didn’t need anything and I’m an encore so I felt uncomfortable registering. I think it you do it the right way it’s ok…
Post # 16
It is not considered rude by all people. Some people – i.e. many on MY guest list – think it’s an awesome idea. Please refrain from making presumptuous blanket statements about what is “rude” and what isn’t. Maybe some circles of family and friends would consider it rude, but that is most definitely not the case for everyone. It is one thing to speak from your own experience, give your opinion, etc. but to say that something is unequivocally rude is (a) incorrect and (b) in and of itself rude to those of us who are doing it.