Post # 1
any other brides have a smaller venue in which you need the room for a dance floor? We have to move the front 4 tables and the head table in order to have a dance floor. I am not sure how to tell them all that after dinner, they won’t have a table.
It is basically my parents table, his mom’s table, his dad’s table, and his step-dad’s table. All have 8 per table…so 32 guests and 8 bridal party members. I know that most people will mingle after dinner anyway…
but tell me I’m not alone?
Post # 3
Discuss it with your folks before the wedding….since it’s their tables, make them a part of how to solve the problem. Most likely they will tell you that they’ll be responsible for telling people at the table and that way everyone is in the know beforehand rather than surprising poeple on the day of the wedding with a “get up and move it!” attitude. As long as people have plenty of notice and understand that you are trying to deal with it as a dilemma (since you don’t want to inconvenience people) they should understand that you do love them, you are just dealing with a logistics problem. You might have a plan of where to move their chairs–like a couple of chairs getting disbursed to other tables nearby to make tables of 10. That way you guys don’t have a question as to where to put peoples stuff, etc.
Post # 4
I dunno… that sounds like a really tough situation, b/c obviously if you don’t have the room, you don’t have the space!
I know you’re just asking if anyone else has had to do this and not what we think, but I do agree that you should ask the people who will be affected. I know personally that I really like having a “place,” to set my drink down, put my purse and phone (and maybe coat,) and it would be very annoying to suddenly have to stand for the final 2 hours (or whatever) of the reception.
Post # 5
EEK. I think this is too much. I cannot imagine not having a “home base” table to sit my stuff at during a wedding. Is your guest list final?
Post # 6
@heather25: This is what I was thinking… is it possible to cut the guest list at all?
It would be no fun to dance without having a place leave my purse and/or shawl, let alone having no where to sit and nurse a drink when I was hot or tired from standing. I would probably leave well before it was over and feel a but… unwanted. Is it possible to do long tables that fit more people throughout instead of lots of round tables? If it were a smaller amount of people (like a single table) you might be able to get away with having guests pull up chairs and joining other tables, but this seems like too much.
Post # 7
ooh that is tough. I have never heard it before.
There are plenty of cocktail receptions that people dont have tables, but asking people to move after they did have a table can be a little tough. I would tend to think, well why am I the one to get shafted in this deal? Even as a sister or BM. Of course I would do it, but it would be odd.
I would very carefully choose the people at those tables and as others have said tell them all before the wedding. Then, again as a PP said, move the chairs so their chairs still exist somewhere. To other tables, along side the wall etc. So it sounds like you have to displace at least 40 people? Thats a lot of people.
Post # 8
We had to switch rooms entirely after dinner and go back in to the ceremony space for the dancing, and it turned out fine. If you are able to line the walls with chairs so the displaced people still have somewhere to sit or leave their things, that would be a big help.
As for warning them, maybe put a couple of nicely worded signs on each table saying that the people seated there will need to do some shifting around after dinner.
ETA: How many guests do you have in total?
Post # 9
You can ask the staff to add 2 chairs to 10 other tables. Everyone will have a home base. You will find that people usually rearrange themselves after dinner anyhow. Some guests will also leave early freeing up more space.
Post # 10
That is hard. We had two room choices at our venue the first we would have to seat the dance floor and after dinner would be ina simalar situation. The second was a bit more expensive but had a lot more space. We opted for the more space. But before we made the decision we decided that if we were going to do the smaller room we had asked the venue to leave the chairs in case people stillwanted to sit. The tables would be gone, but the chairs would still be in the room.
Post # 11
Guest list final. This has had to be done at a few weddings I have been to and it wasnt a big deal because we were up dancing all night, but just wanted to see if anyone else has to do this.
It is only our parent tables being asked to move & there will be plenty of chairs around the dance floor and lining the walls if they want to sit. half of the group (having to move) will most likely leave right after the first dances because they are old & have to travel far home.
I have already talked to 2 tables and they are totally ok with it , because they are the closest family and completely understand. Our venue only holds 160 max and we have 149.
Post # 12
@organizedbride11: yes same here. Our tables fit 8, and at 5 tables or so there are only 7 people leaving one extra chair. It seems to work out pretty well, because most of the people left without seats will have one by their family or friends .
Post # 13
My best friend did it just a couple of months ago! She just let people know ahead of time so no one was surprised.
She moved herself, her immediate family and some friends. No one seemed to mind really and people just mingled at other tables/ borrowed chairs from those who were dancing.
It seems like you are covering your bases by telling poeple ahead of time! I’m sure your reception will be a blast!
Post # 14
@FallBzz: thank you!!! I hope so.
Post # 15
Actually, the family tables are the last ones I’d expect to move or be moved. I’d have some of your friends at the tables who won’t mind being scattered to other tables later on.
Post # 16
@ItWasntMe: it is the front 4 tables and the head table that needs to come down. I do not want my family sitting behind friends.