Asking guests to pay for parking?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it tacky to expect guests to pay $8 to park at reception?
    Yes : (104 votes)
    68 %
    No : (42 votes)
    27 %
    Other (please explain below) : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I don’t carry cash, neither does my husband. So regardless of whether or not we wanted to pay, we’d be walking from wherever is closest. I don’t feel that guests should open their wallets for any reason to physically come to your wedding, so I’d be trying to find a way to remedy the 8 dollar fee.

    Post # 3
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    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I feel you on the budget thing – especially when it comes to stuff like this! We didn’t pay for valet parking at our venue, but ONLY because there was an option to self park for free as well. I felt that since there was an option to park for free, the valet was a personal preference and wasn’t the only option for our guests.

    Had I decided to go with any of the reception venues that we had been looking at where valet parking was the absolute only option, we would have paid for it. It would have sucked, because that adds up pretty quick, but I’m of the opinion that guests shouldn’t have to pay to attend your wedding (ie no cash bars, etc).

    That being said, do what you can afford and don’t stress yourself out or put yourself into debt because of the parking. Just make sure it’s mentioned via word of mouth as well as on your website – you’d be amazed how many people won’t check your wedding website (we had a ton of guests ask us, the bridal party, and our parents for all kinds of information that was on the wedding website). 

    Post # 4
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    3223 posts
    Sugar bee

    I do not think guests should have to pay for anything.  Regardless of how far the car park is, I would have to walk as it’s highly unlikely I’d have the cash to pay for valet.  I would work with the venue and see if there is anything that can be worked out to allow people to park their own cars for free.

    You should have calculated this fee into your budget, unless it is something new that they’ve just sprung on you at the last minute.

    Post # 5
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    339 posts
    Helper bee

    I read the question wrong, I definitely meant to answer yes.

    Post # 6
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    1618 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Not everybody checks the wedding website, so you can’t really count on that. I would try everything possible to cover the cost for your guests. 

    Post # 7
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    13020 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ve been to plenty of wedding in the city where you have to valet, garage, or park at a meter if spots are even available and walk.  I didn’t have any issues with having to deal wiht my own mode of transportation.

    Post # 8
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    1244 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    pinkrose23:  I think you should pay for the parking and make cuts elsewhere. As a guest I would be annoyed if I had to pay $8 to park at a wedding.

    Post # 9
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    42522 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you live in the city, you expect to pay for parking. I pay for parking to go out for dinner whether that is at a friend’s home or a restaurant.

    Post # 10
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    740 posts
    Busy bee

    As a guest I would actually rather pay for my own drinks (Cash bars are also normal where I am from) than pay for parking. I don’t have to drink if I don’t want to but I do have to park in order to get to the wedding.

    Post # 11
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    808 posts
    Busy bee

    A wedding I went to recently was at a location that you could only drive or take a cab to (public transport was torturous), and I had to pay $20 to park. I was pretty annoyed, but sucked it up. 

    Post # 12
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    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF

    I’m not sure if “tacky” is the word that I’d use but I do think that if you can find a way to cover the cost, you should. I totally forgot about parking when my FI and I were drafting our budget and learned that parking at our reception venue would cost each person $56/day. Painful pill to swallow but we’ve now budgeted an extra $2.5K towards this so that our guests don’t have an unexpected and extremely costly surprise. 🙁

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I’m going to be honest, I’d definitely side-eye you if I was forced to pay for a valet to park my car.  It might be worth sucking it up and paying this so that all of your guests don’t start off your reception feeling a little irritated…

    Post # 14
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    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t mind, but I also don’t carry cash regularly. I’m pretty sure most of our guests didn’t visit our wedding website either so don’t count on that cutting out the surprise.

    I agree that I don’t consider it tacky. Also, I think it completely depends on the location. If I was going to a wedding in a place with limited parking like a city, I would expect to pay for parking. If I was going to a barn out in the mountains, I would not.

    Post # 15
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    631 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If you cant afford it, you cant afford it. Let them pay for it. Ive had to pay for parking at city weddings MANY times and just try and get the word out to them as best as possible. How many guests do you have coming?

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