Asking guests to pay for the home rental

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
11593 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I personally would find it rude if it was an obligation and not an option.

Post # 3
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think you can really dictate where you’re guests are going to be staying unless you’re paying.  Would it be possible for you and your FI to rent the house and invite everyone to stay with you?

Post # 4
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You would essentially be making your guests pay for your wedding venue. I find that to be rude.

That said, friends of ours did just that. Everyone was required to stay at the house and pay their own way. But the bride and groom stayed at the house as well, so at least they bore some of the costs.

Post # 5
3009 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do not do this. You can certainly suggest that there are house rentals in the area, which make the perfect option for groups to split, and let them make the decision.


Did you consider the fact that 16 people might not want to stay in the same house for 4 days?

Post # 6
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

ny88:  We did this and we included it in our wedding budget since we used it for the wedding.  I would never dream of asking guests, even family, to pay for a wedding venue which is what you would be doing.

Post # 7
2383 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

ny88:  Yes, I would consider that rude- esp if ya’ll aren’t even staying there. Essentially I would feel I was paying for my own lodging, in addition to your ceremony venue with little to no benefits. If ya’ll were staying there I would gladly pay as well to stay so I had more time with the Bride & Groom, but I’d much rather have my own space (house/rental/whatever) than have someone dictate it to me… 

Post # 8
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you can find a place that will sleep that many people comfortably, and allows weddings, you could go ahead and book it, then hope that your guests want to stay there at the cost at which it is available.

If they don’t, you better be clear about the cancellation policy, or you will be left holding the bag for the rental.

I would only do that though, if you are either staying there yourselves, or paying at least the equivalent of one day’s rental for the wedding venue. It’s not up to your guests to pay for the venue.

Your idea of fun acomodations may be very different from your guests’.

Post # 9
1349 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

ny88:  I think the absolute MOST you can do is spread the word that if people are interested in a rental to let you know.  That way it’s an option but they get to choose.  I would just spread the word informally.  

Post # 12
6959 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It would be one thing to rent the house yourselves and then offer rooms to your family for $X amount, but to basically force them to pay for your wedding venue would be rude IMO.

Post # 13
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ny88:  why don’t you and FI stay there instead and let everybody else decide if they want to go in on a rental somewhere else? 

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