Post # 1
I’ve seen this photo floating around, and wanted to get the bees’ thoughts:
Personally, I like the idea of giving the photographer the space to do his or her job for the important moments. To save money we didn’t have the photographer later in the evening because we thought the guests would just capture the photos, but I kinda wished we went this route instead! My guests did get some great photos, but nothing compared to what we got from the professional photographer. Plus I’m very camera shy, so having my picture taken isn’t really my thing – although my photographer was great about making me feel comfortable. Also when I attend weddings or other events I’m not really a huge picture taker either, I like having the photos but way prefer being in the moment than behind my camera!
What is your take?
Post # 3
I think that the people who come to weddings to take a bunch of pictures are going to do it anyway. Especially “old school” guests who aren’t up in sharing photos online – they think that if they don’t take a picture, they’ll lose the moment FOREVER.
I really take no issue with this in general, but I am going to tell my uncle (who thinks that he’s a pro because he’s managed to figure out a Nikon point and shoot…seriously, he puts it on a tripod) to stay in his seat 😉
Post # 4
Hmm … I think I’m a little more on board with asking guests not to take photographs during the ceremony, but I think it’s a little excessive to try to tell them they can’t snap their own pics at your reception. To me it smacks a little bit of “this photographer wants to fatten up his/her bottom line by making everyone buy their photos instead of taking their own,” and that leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.
Post # 5
We have very shutter happy friends and family and they were totally respectful of our photographers. I think as long as you establish, by word of mouth, your preferences, that people are pretty understanding. However, I don’t think saying something like this is out of whack. If this is how you feel, this is a respectful way of saying it.
Frankly, our photographer has one shot of me watching a video a guest had just taken (of him taking a shot with my usually conservative mother) and it is one of my favorite. So, I enjoyed having all the photogs in my life invovled.
Post # 6
I totally get where you’re coming from. There were a few instances were I wanted to scream for people to get the cameras out of my face. They were getting in the way of our very expensive professional photographer! At one point I had to kind of shout at my SIL because we were doing family photos and it was her turn to come up and she was like “no.. let me take one more.” AHH! Put down the camera and stay out of the way of the pro. His photos will be 100000 times better!
With all of that said, your family and friends are just excited and want to share in your day. I’m not sure how they’d react to being told not to take photos.
Post # 7
We had our officiant ask guests to turn off cameras and cell phones during the ceremony and I am 100% glad that we did. We also got a lot of remarks about how much more emotional the ceremony was because guests were actually paying attention rather than trying to get a nice picture.
Post # 8
Hmm…I understand it. We just told everyone on our website to not have flash on. In a way, I’m glad we didn’t tell people not to take pics. The photographer missed some amazing shots that family got. Also, I actually found that the most beautiful shot of me in my dress was by my sister and had our photographer put it in our book with my sister’s name listed as the person who took it in our book. As far as guests are concerned, I would only mention something about flashes and not getting in the way of photographers shot.
Post # 9
My family would be super insulted! If they want to take pictures, thats cool with me. If I want something more private with my family or wedding party/new hubby we’ll go somewhere private away from the guest. If the day is already all about the newly weds, than whats the difference if people take pictures too? They wont be getting the professional ones you will, so if they are for themselves then thats ok with me.
But I get the whole turning off the phones thing!
Post # 10
I had a similar request asking for no photos or recording during our ceremony. It was posted on a little sign at the guestbook and our greeter gently reminded guests as they entered the venue. We had no problems at all despite very shutter happy guests. Everyone understood the tone we were setting and everyone was respectful of that. Some cameras came out during the reception but even then it was respectful and at that point, clearly all in the fun of it.
Post # 11
Last wedding I was at had a photog team of 5 and they were there the whole night…. now because i used my e-maill address to log in to view the photos I get mail from them weekly (this was 6+ months back) and to top it all off there are only 2 photos of me out of thousands of them. Only 1 with FI and I – and it’s not great and none of us dancing. Both photos I was sitting and looking kind of fat. I left my camera behind because I knew it was being well documented – now I wish I had SOME photos of me in my gown I had for that night. *le sigh*
I wouldn’t ask my guests this – because then it’s on you for not capturing all the moments and that’s never going to happen.
Addiitonally, at a graduation for my FI recently there was a pro photog and 2 semi pros snapping photos. The BEST shot of the whole event was one I snapped on my little point and shoot – NOT a DSLR…. nothing fancy… just a lucky and well composed shot. That’s the one going on the wall – and I bought a $200 photography package for him expecting it to be one of those. I wish I had my money back.
I wouldn’t deprive yourself of the lucky money shots from your guests.
Post # 12
Some of the most amazing photos I have seen so far have been from guests at our wedding. I can’t imagine not allowing guests to capture moments that they feel are special and worth remembering. Granted none of my guests were running through the aisles and getting in the way so perhaps that is the difference.
Post # 13
Honestly taking photos and having them are part of the memories for a lot of people. Saying that your photographer will have/take great pictures fro them is all well and good but photographers photos are expensive. I think it is a little unfair to invite your guests to come and make memories with you but then wanting them to pay a lot of money to have a reminder of those memories. kind of like those ridiculously priced theme park photos that you have to buy if you want the memory!
I like looking at he photos I have taken at friends/relatives wedding but if I had to buy expensive prints off of a photographer then guess what I wouldn’t do it and would have no pictures to enjoy. 63 year old aunt Mary who lives ona pension wouldn’t be able to afford the photographers fees so she has no photos! I am sure she will probably remember that 9and its rudeness) more than the wedding!
I have also posted on threads like this before about a friends wedding that banned guest photography and the photographer had all of his equipment stolen (it was a DW) so now she has no wedding photos at all. It is her biggest regret.
Post # 14
I see what you all are saying about telling guests not to take any pictures, that is a bit unrealistic – plus you really have to rely that your photographer is good (mine was and I didn’t get enough of her, so maybe I’m just projecting…). It’s just more for the highlights, such as the first dance, cake cutting, ceremony, but not for everything! And I do love the photos I’ve seen on Facebook from the wedding from guests! Although there were some moments where I thought to myself, please put the camera down! I was doing my first look and I could see my mom taking pictures in the background, and I was like, this is a private moment! Then my dad (who is very trigger happy no matter what the occation is, lol) had his big camera and was taking family shots as well, and there were one or two moments he was directly in the line of fire of what the photographer was trying to do, so it was a little awkward for her.
Mind you, my wedding day was the best day of my life so these are very very minor details when all is said and done. I married the love of my life and have some good photos from both guests and the photographer, so this is in no way a major rant from me 🙂
Post # 15
One of my FMILs is pretty darn good with a camera and to be honest I am expecting her to catch a few things the photog doesn’t. (She’s had a ton of experience, she’s been MOTB or MILOTB in about 3 weddings in 4 or so years and all the photos I’ve see her take are wonderful.) Think about the paparazzi and how they can get great shots with 20-30 others trying to do the same, I think if you have a decent photog it shouldn’t matter whether or not the guests take pics too.
Post # 16
I am trying to figure out a way for people to NOT take pics at our ceremony. My reason is that I want to be able to see their faces while I walk down the aisle, not their cell pones/cameras/iPhones or whatever else you can use. I don’t care if they want to take pics after we kiss, and I might add this into the program. I also don’t mind pics while the pros take them, iI just want a personal ceremony, not a photoshoot.