Post # 1
Would it be totally insulting for me to ask my hairstylist and MUA (they are friends) to stick around to possibly babysit/dogsit during the wedding? My intentions are two-fold. I LOVE my hairstylist and have been going to her for a couple years now. I really would love to have her stick around for ceremony and reception (all at the same hotel) but can’t really justify forking over the cash (ie. Dad’s money) for her and a friend to do so.
At the same time, I really am looking for a dogsitter and a babysitter.
I’m thinking this might be either highly insulting to her or she’ll be psyched to attend the wedding with her friend. She’s also somewhat friendly with my sister – in a client-stylist sorta way like me.
Post # 3
do you know that she is a dog lover or really good with kids??
to be honest I think it is insulting. you want her to be there, but not enough to pay for her to eat/ take part at the reception.
Post # 4
@skiptomylou: So I take it you are not planning on paying her? So her job is to attend but to follow the kids and make sure they’re staying out of trouble kind of thing?
If that’s the case, I would think that was rude. Now, if you were paying her a reasonable amount, that’s a different story.
EDIT: Now that I’ve thought about for a couple more minutes, I still think it’s rude! I’m sorry, but no. Invite her as a guest or not at all. She’s a hair stylist, not a baby sitter. If you want a baby sitter, you need to fork over the money for a sitter.
Post # 5
@skiptomylou: Personally, I woud be offended if I was her.
I’m also failing to see how she could be psyched to “attend” the wedding – if she is dog/baby sitting, wouldnt she then be in another room/location and therefore not at the wedding at all?
Post # 6
Oh yes I will be paying her – definitely for the hair styling and I was thinking of asking her to possibly dogsit (be there with them for pictures beforehand then put them in our room for the rest of the night) or babysit (possibly have to put my neice to bed, probably won’t even be necessary at all) and tell her I would pay her whatever she thought I should.
I know she is both a kid person and a dog person.
Post # 7
@skiptomylou: It’s insulting. She’s a professional MUA, not a babysitter. Either invite them as a guest, pay them to stick around for touch ups, or leave it at that. I LOVE weddings, and working them, but if a client asked me to spend my Saturday/evening to babysit I’d be insulted.
Post # 8
I would be paying for her to eat and paying her for her services…She would be attending the party…
Post # 9
@skiptomylou: personally I think it would be kind of insulting. I’m gonna vote for don’t ask her to do that.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t. Hire a babysitting service.
Post # 11
Unless she has a dogsitting / babysitting business on the side and you’re paying her the going rate, I don’t see how this would work.
Post # 12
No, insulting. She wouldn’t be “going to the party”. She would be working, and she is a professional hairstylist/MUA, not a babysitter.
Post # 13
I thought you said you weren’t paying for her to stay but then it sounds like you said you would be paying for her? I think I’m just confused too. If she’s babysitting, wouldn’t she not even be at the wedding?
I think if I were her I’d be a little insulted, I try not to really talk about my wedding to anyone who isn’t invited. I’d feel weird if I asked her to be there but just to babysit.
Post # 14
Don’t do it. Find someone who has babysitter/dogsitter as their job description.
Post # 15
Dog sitters get paid. I don’t know if she would find it insulting. I wouldn’t want to stick around for.hours at your house watching your dog while you are at your wedding. Once you get back home are you planning to chat with her and tell her all about your wedding?
Post # 16
I think it may be a insulting either invite her to attend or don’t but asking her to babysit at the wedding … In exchange for an invite seems rude