- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Okay, so if you read my previous thread, I had a horror show with my original Maid/Matron of Honor. Long story short, I didn’t follow my heart and go with my best friend because she lived across the country and I didn’t want to put any pressure on her, SO I went with someone in my fiance’s family, who lived close and was a good friend. Now that’s over (she threatened to leave my wedding party because my fiance and I decided that having 15 kids at the wedding just wasn’t our thing, she ignored me, never discussed wedding, among other things..) I did not make the decision lightly, it really took several months of her being nasty, minipulative and bossy for me to finally let her go.
So my question isn’t at all about choosing a new Maid/Matron of Honor, I am planning on doing that, but my question is HOW do I ask my friend across the country who knows I didn’t orignially ask her. I did ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and at the time told her it was because I didn’t want to put pressure on her, but I’m sure she was hurt we’ve been best friends for YEARS. So how do I word asking her? Do I tell her that she is the one I wanted to originially ask? Or do I not bring up anything that happened with the old one to make her think that she was second pick? Because she is but technically isn’t.. I just don’t know how to approach the topic :(.. I just can’t think of a way to word it so that she knows the she IS who I KNOW I should have gone with initially..