- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
so I have been asking my bestie what she thinks on alot of things … she came at me with to see a few venues so i asked what she thought she told me …What i think dosn’t matter … you and the groom have to pick it all i wont tell you what i think on anything
she knows my groom lives at a distance … and he has given me pretty much free rain since the wedding will be here close to me. He said whatever makes me happy will make him happy he just wants me to love it. He wants to have imput on the music and know the food is great as for flowers table clothes witch venue I like, he told me do what makes me happy b.c. he wants me to love it. its more of a girls thing to love the day he loves me so me loving it will make his day
I thought this was sweet but my friend told me thats him copping out and if he and i dont plan the day and all the lil things it wont be our wedding and we wont have happy marriage (well her and her husband said the part about the not having a happy marriage thing she agreed though i thought it was rude)
I was pretty offended, alot of guys don’t like planning lil things like that and he is a few hour plane trip away right now so he can’t really voice his thoughts on things step by step its not like he can help that, he trusts my taste and knows i wont do anything bad
i am feeling a lil over done and confused I like alot of things and wanted just like ppls thoughts incase there were lil things i dont think of that might make a good point for one place over another …or like lil things someone who already has had a wedding can tell me so i avoid un needed things or dont over look something
is it weird he is letting me plan it?
is it bad? or did my friend over react?
should i try and talk him into coming to trips out here more to pick things. I tend to visit him.
Should i just find some other friend to help me, my bestie told me its not right I even ask her thoughts? is that true am I being rude?
I always thought its good to get ppls thoughts more so form her b.c. she has had a wedding, I have not so there might be things that go smoother one way or another I just thought asking was normal but her and her hubby seem to think its really weird i ask at all and that and he isnt doing it all with me…. he is just busy and i didnt think asking about if the venue out of the city was to far and was i being silly loving it for the out door beauty of it and being unrealistic expecting ppl to drive for a few hours or fly into the mountians for a wedding … or the big grand one that closed at 1030 good? i kinda thought that was perfect but 1030 is early early i asked them if it was too early and they went off on me for even asking … then there is one in the city i love but i wonder if it is to small my friend saw it with me so i thought i could ask her if she thought it was to small and she said my groom should tell me not her…
meanwhile he just said if you love it get it i will like anything I just want you to have a great day.