Post # 1
OK so i have my maid of honor and 3 bridesmaids but im having trouble deciding if i should ask my Fiances brothers fiance…lol get that??? We are friends and she is going to be family….what do you think???
Post # 3
@princessamy: If you want her to stand up there with you, then ask. Don’t feel obligated to ask her because she’s your BIL’s fiancee.
Post # 4
I agree- if you want her to be there, ask! But there is certainly nothing saying you have to.
Post # 5
Yes, I think in the interest of family and your future with the family, it would be nice to include her as either a bridesmaid or honoring her some other way in a reading or whatnot.
Post # 6
My fiance’s dad gave us this piece of advice in creating our wedding party- if you are in doubt, err on the side of including them. People always like to be included, she will be family, and you said you do have a relationship with her. You can always tell her that you knwo she’s planning her own wedding, no hard feelings if she can’t do it, etc, but why not offer the option?
Unless I guess she picked hers already and you are not in it! lol
Post # 7
Like everyone else said, don’t feel obligated! But I think it’s nice to include family in your wedding, especially since you said she is your friend as well. Family will always be around (I guess people do divorce more frequently now but…) but friends come and go. You can have a friend and not see them for years, or ever again. Not because they don’t like you anymore, but because life happens. People move, things happen and friends just don’t always prioritize you like they would a fmaily member.