Post # 1
So FI and I went to Men’s Warehouse yesterday to start to look for the Groom’s and Groomsment looks. At first we went with JCrew Ludlow, but the vest in the XL was not long enough for my 6’6″ man! So we knew we wanted a vest and gray pants and NOT a tux. The only suit they had in the color we like is a 3 piece suit. We have been going back and forth about whether or not it is too much to ask the guys to buy a suit….. (in my head this was not an issue if it was JCREW…seriously I need help). So my question is… is it too much to ask the guys to buy a new suit for the wedding (it will be about $300-$400 a person depending if my dad gets the same suit) or is it fine.. they get a suit and don’t shell out $175 for an uncomfortable one size fits “all” tux…
Here is the suit link…. the page will not let me save the photo:
Post # 3
my FI had to buy a new suit for a wedding he was in 2 years ago and has worn it more than a dozen times since, so he figures it was a good investment. he was actually happier to pay $300 for something he got to keep (and that was tailored to fit him) than to pay $150 for an ill-fitting suit (rentals never fit him) that he had to give back. as long as it is an easily rewearable suit and you know that the men have the money, i think it’s ok. if you’re worried though, maybe ask a few of them what they think?
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I think it’s too much.. We just had our best man wear a dark suit that he already owned. I don’t think it makes a difference if everyone’s suit matches or not, but I think I’m also in the minority.
I just want to add, my husband owns several suits, so we’d be peeved. But if this a group of young guys with no suits, that’s different!
Post # 5
I think it is too much. We asked our men to wear a black suit. Some of them already owned a black suit or were able to borrow one. Others bought suits from Jos A Bank when they had a really good deal…it was something like buy a suit get one free and 2 white shirts as well. There was no requirement of how much they had to spend so they were able to spend what they were comfortable with.
Post # 6
@ribbons: good point about the age of the men. all of our groomsmen are 30+ and we’re just having them wear their own black suits, because they all own them already. if we were in our early 20s maybe we’d have done something different, since younger guys are less likely to own a couple suits already.
Post # 7
I think $300-400 is too much.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We asked our guys to buy suits but we went through studiosuits.com. Mr. Meerkat got the $175 high quality linen version and our guys got the $99 version which is just a different type of linen. (You can see the photos here: Suit Photos) The suits are fantastic. Mr. Meerkat is even planning on purchasing one of the gray ones for himself after the wedding.
Post # 9
My mister is wearing a grey suit as well and we have asked the men to just wear grey slacks and a white shirt.
Post # 10
It’s definitely a ton of money to spend. If you decide to go this route, I would have your FI ask them each individually (no group pressure!) if they are okay with it. I can’t imagine spending $400 to be in someone’s wedding, but maybe their financial situations are different than mine.
Post # 11
I think that is a lot to ask. I would try running it by the guys first to see what they think. I understand your point and they could wear it again, however what if they don’t reguarly wear suits? Half of our bridal party was trademen and only wear suits to weddings and funerals.
Post # 12
We’re in the same position as you…. would really prefer a suit for the guys but they don’t all have the same color suit. We are just dealing with it and ordering tuxes because we are definitely NOT comfortable asking the guys to buy a suit for our wedding.
Post # 13
I agree that it is too much to ask. One of our groomsmen is my 14 year old brother, and it would definitely be a waste of money on him, as he is still growing.
I think renting a tux is crazy expensive though, especially for something you only wear once.
Post # 14
I know that MY FI’s GM are not really suit wearing men. One is a plumber and one is a para professional and home health aid. They would have no use for a suit after the wedding. FI does have a very nice tailored suit which he is going to wear and we are going to ask the GM to buy a nice pair of slacks and crisp white shirt. We’re going to buy the ties for them. No jacket, no vest.
Post # 15
Our groomsmen were able to piece together suits from either their own closets or from friends. Of course they could have chosen to buy one but not a single one chose that route. I wouldn’t have felt right telling someone to spend that much just to be in our wedding, especially since they have to pick it out in the colors I choose. The pants weren’t all exactly the same shade of grey but it really didn’t matter at all. Our pictures turned out great.
Post # 16
@meerkat: thanks for the site!