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Its rude to ask how old someone is. Its more appropriate to ask how much experience they have.
The best thing to do is ask basic questions (like price and availability) over email and then ask everything else in person.
It certainly isn't rude to ask the questions, especially the photography one. As for the DJ age question, however, I would insist on meeting him rather than asking for age particulars. After all, he could be 45 and act and dress like he's 15 or he could be 19 and be very mature and well mannered. In the case of any of your vendors who will be there on your wedding day, I recommend meeting and speaking with them in person, if at all possible. There's a reason that women's intuition is so highly rated!
I don't think it's at all snotty to ask a photographer how many weddings they've shot. You should also ask to see a complete set of wedding photos so you're not just seeing the best of the best that they put up on their website.
As for the DJ, I probably wouldn't flat out ask him his age just because I don't ask anyone their age. What is it that concerns you about a person's age? If it's experience (or lack thereof), just ask how many years he has been in the business or how many weddings he does in a year. If you're worried he may be too old and play music that's not to your liking, perhaps you could ask to see a list of songs he's played at recent weddings. Our DJ actually had on online program where you could see all the songs he could play.
Im planning the wedding from a distance so meeting in person isnt the easiest plan.
The reason the prospective DJs age even came up is because he has an old man name (Im not going to post it, just incase any bees are marrying someone with this name, of course he could be married after a family member or something lol)
No that ive asked this question on here I realize age doesnt really matter at all. Im not concerned out anything regarding age so I dont know why I wanted to ask that. I guess Im just most nervous about picking a DJ. I wish they posted video clips on their websites.
As a photographer myself, I can tell you that if they're good at their trade (and not just taking photos) they'll welcome inquiries. Of course, one can be offensive in the way or manner they ask a question, so be tactful, but don't be afraid to inquire.
I actually want my clients to ask questions about my studio's work, for several reasons. There are many, MANY "professional" wedding photographers who got a digital SLR for Christmas last year and now suddenly are Gary Fong. It's a great way for me to separate myself from the mass of amateurs because I'm confident in my capabilities as a photographer and businessperson, and I welcome any opportunity to prove my worth. It also helps potential clients understand that while you should get a good value for your money, a "pro" who charges $450 for all day and includes albums and prints.... is not a good value at all. There's no way humanly possible to even pay your living expenses if that's what you charge... and if you can't make a living with your professional trade, how good can you be?
Also feel free to ask about equipment, logistical things, et cetera. This shows more than you think it would. First, it is good to know that your photographer is using proper equipment, but more than that it also shows you how well they communicate and deal with you. If you don't know all the technical jargon, can they still answer your question and have you understand what they shoot with and why that's important? That ability to convey information in a way the client understands is so, so very important.
Age, on the other hand, is rather irrelevant. If they pass muster on everything else, there's no reason for it to be a factor.
I hope that helps!
Sean
I also agree, age isn't important.
Maturity, professionalism, dress code, etc are what you should be more concerned about.
Not to mention their quality of work! We're a younger team of photographers, and I'd hate for someone to make a judgement about us based on our age, because we have 7 years of experience, but asking our age would never show that part.
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Does anyone else get all tongue tied when contacting a vendor?
We're trying to pick our photographer and I wanted to email one some questions... but I have no idea what questions to ask and then i feel like my questions sound snotty. I want to ask how many weddings she's photographed because I get the feeling shes new to being a wedding photographer.
And then with the DJ I want to ask how old he is because I feel age can be an important factor.
Is it rude to ask these types of questions or do I have a right to know?