Post # 1
i’m debating whether to have assigned seating at my reception. i kinda like the idea of mingling and people getting to choose who they want to sit by all evening. i know place cards and all that is what everyone’s doing, but what are your thoughts on letting people decide where to sit?
Post # 3
I’m a strong supporter of assigned seating. Often times, guests want to sit with people that they know (or at least that’s how my family is).
Post # 4
I agree with Jennybirdy, we’re doing assigned seating so that everyone can intermingle, and it’s more fun when you get to meet new people!
Post # 5
Do you mean table assignments or specific seats? I would at least do tabel assignments; that way, you can make sure people will be with others that they know, as jennybirdy said. But I think assigning specific seats isn’t necessary.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I prefer assigned seating, but if you don’t, make sure to “reserve” seats for the wedding party and immediate families so that you all don’t end up with bad seats if you take any pictures after the ceremony. 😉
Post # 7
there wasn’t assigned seating in my brother’s wedding. it was fine. people might have pulled a chair up here and there, no big deal.
Post # 8
I agree with assigned tables and not neccessarily assigned seats at the table.
Post # 9
yeah i just read a few other posts about this and i do see people’s points about wanting less chaos, and how ppl often make a mad dash for a table or save a table. yeah, that’s definitely not my vision. i guess i just hate how everyone is at the reception scouring over rows and rows of cards with their names on it then are like on a treasure hunt to find their table. i dunno, i see both sides. yikes! i’m confused!
Post # 10
I am doing table assignments but not assigned seats. This way there is no chaos, no one gets left out of a table and people don’t cram 10 ppl at one table and leave 6 at another etc.
But we are assigning the tables so that everyone gets to sit with their friends we are not too worried about intermingling and just want people to have fun!
Post # 11
i just recently went to a wedding where there were no assigned tables, and it was a mad dash followed by a really really stressful and socially awkward 10 minutes–my fi and i were there with my parents, and we didn’t know anyone else really except a few distant, extended family members, who filled up an entire table. more than half the guest didn’t speak english, making it incredibly hard to mingle, and it was just really, really bad overall!
so for us, we’re saving our guests any potential discomfort and definitely assigning tables!
Post # 12
@hrob…I see your point….
However, if you have the type of relatives/friends that don’t rsvp and just show up, you will be GLAD you had some sort of formal seating arrangement…either by seat or by table. I was a guest at the wedding where so many extra people showed up, there was no room for INVITED guests…many of us came from out of town for the wedding…myself included. They actually had to clear the reception area…reset the tables (people had been drinking water from the glasses…lol) and let people in according to the guestlist of those who actually RSVP-ed.
My sister is having hostesses who will be checking guests off to make sure they were on the final list before they are allowed into the reception room. Any extra seats will be on a first come, first serve basis.
By doing a seating chart, and assigning at least tables, you can at least be sure that those guests who took the time out to rsvp actually get a seat =)
Post # 13
all very good points. THANKS! 🙂
Post # 14
My friend didn’t do assigned seating for her wedding, she just put a “reserved” sign on the table that was supposed to be for the parents. And the grooms cousin, his wife, kid, and BABYSITTER overtook the table with some other random ppl!!! We were so astonished, but nobody wanted to tell them get up and move, and the parents ended up sitting at a side table!! I wanted to punch them in the face…needless to say, I’m having placecards!!!
Post # 15
A quote from a different discussion board on the topic:
“We had a seating chart and so did every single wedding I have gone to…except 1. People ended up not having seats because tables were unfilled. Some people just stood in back for dinner/drink so they didn’t have to sit next to strangers.”
That’s so sad!! 🙁
Post # 16
ugh, I’m having the same dilemma!
Most weddings I have been to don’t have assigned seating or tables, but I hate the mad dash to find enough seats so you can sit with people you know for the reception. Plus I want to ensure that my family will have their tables.
Fiance and I are going back and forth about it, my mom doesn’t think we should.
Good luck with the decision!