Post # 1
Sigh I have really struggled with this one. I have a challenging group that is coming together for my wedding and since I am not having a sit down dinner but instead having a formal high tea that I would let everyone sit where they wanted. At the brides table it will be myself and my hubby and my parents, his mom and our kids but everyone else will have to just cope. Also our ceremony is on a balcony right outside the reception room at the Four Seasons and since the reception is immediately following with no cocktail hour thought it would flow easier to just open the doors and let people choose a seat.
BUT our venue is maxed out and there is one seat per person – so would I be better off doing tables and letting people swap on their own later?
Post # 3
Do assigned tables. Open seating turns into chaos with people trying to reserve tables using jackets and purses, and people getting split up from their SOs or families.
Post # 4
I agree with jayce. Open seating can create chaos, which you don’t want.
Post # 5
Given you said they were a ‘challenging’ group, they definitely need assigned tables. If there are problems even within the table groups, then do seats also but I would think just tables is enough!
Post # 6
i agree. assigned tables but you dont need to assign specific seats
Post # 7
Assigned tables definitely. It’s way too high-school-cafteria without some sort of direction 🙂
Post # 8
I never knew open seating at receptions existed until I went to a wedding for one of FI’s friends. We were waiting in this line which we thought was to pick up our place cards but it was really to sign the guest book. We did a loop around the venue searching for our assigned table and noticed everyone else had the same perplexed looks on their faces. Moral of the story…assigned tables! I can think of a few people we’re inviting who don’t know many people at our wedding and it would just be awkward for them – high school cafeteria like @youhavemyheart said.
Post # 9
@youhavemyheart: High school cafeteria is the perfect analogy. I definitely wouldn’t want my guests to feel awkward having to approach a table of strangers and ask if they can sit there.
Post # 10
I agree, assigned seating! I went to a wedding of an old high school friend. There wasn’t anybody else that I knew, besides the group that already had their table full, so my FI and I sat at a table by ourselves. An older couple did come join us, and it was totally awkward.
Post # 11
Yes, assign everyone a table! Seriously, as a guest who went to a wedding with no seats assigned and a very specific group of people I wanted to sit with (co-workers), I was STRESSED waiting for the doors to open in hopes to get a table to sit at.
If you have a challenging group of people (from different circles, etc), it’s best for you to assign the seats. This way, you can group together people who know each other. Even though it’s high tea, it’s still a seated situation and you should assign them seats. You can do escort cards, or just do a printed poster-like-thing where people find their names and their table numbers.
Post # 12
Please atleast assign tables. I went to a very high end wedding and they did not assign seats or tables and it was like @jayce: said as soon as you got up other people were on your seat like vultures. Then you had to awkwardly go and try to sit with strangers. The lack of assigned seats was the one real shortcoming of that wedding in my opinion.
Post # 13
I would have assigned seats. I think it is best for people to not have to deal with it- less potential for problems if they cannot chose 😉
Post # 14
I would at least assign tables. I went to a wedding once where my FI was the best man, and I didn’t know anyone (first time meeting his friends from home). I had to travel separately to the reception and there were no seating assignments, so it was super awkward for me. Thankfully they didn’t have a head table so I could at least sit with him at dinner and afterwards, but the cocktail hour waiting for the wedding party to arrive was no fun at all for me!
Post # 15
Originally, I would have said no to assigned seats. That was until I read all these posts about assigned seating. I hadn’t planned on it. Just figured, hey sit where ya want. But now, I’m second guessing myself on that plan. It probably is the best idea. It will just make things run smoother. Everyone will have a seat with at least one person they know for dinner. Then after that they can let loose (: So in other words I say “yay” to assigned seats!
Post # 16
I would definitely do assigned tables. Especially you don’t have any room to let any seats go empty.
Say you get a group of 3, and then a group of 4 sitting at your 8 person table… someone would have to abandon their date and go single?