We aren’t doing it either–in fact, I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding that did assigned seats, or even tables!
I didn’t care much either way, but FI was adamatly against it. He didn’t like the idea because
1. People should be allowed to choose where they sit–this isn’t middle school math class!
2. If people want to move from table to table, whether mingling or to chat with a different set of friends or a new friend altogether, they shouldn’t feel like they aren’t allowed to do that.
3. Most people naturally choose a spot that is “theirs”–whether marked by their purse, shoes, jacket, or other personal items, or simply out of that weird human tendency to always return to one chair after seating arrangements have been established, people tend to organize themselves in a way that is comfortable to them.
To prevent seat-stealing possibilities, we are adding a couple more tables than strictly necessary, and also plenty of extra chairs along the walls. That way, if more than 8 people want to sit together, they can pull up an extra chair, and there will be a few extra seats at a bunch of tables for people to be able to find a seat around people they are comfortable with.
The ONLY wedding I went to where seating was an issue was my uncle’s–they did not provide nearly enough seating for everyone. I think the idea was that people should be mingling on foot, but people tend to want to be able to sit while they’re eating or after a few hours of being on their feet, so most of the time there were too many people squeezed into one couch, people sitting on each other’s laps or on the floor, and just generally an overcrowded feeling.
So whatever you do, make SURE there is more than enough seating for everybody!