Assimilating my fiance into my family. Advice, please!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6948 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@decemberbride121513:  If your brothers do actually like him, maybe they can invite him on a guy date. Really- it just takes time. My SO gets along with some of my family members better than others, mostly because they are geeky in similar ways. But I’ve tried to foster that by making sure we, as a couple, support the family, too. For instance, my cousin is an artist who does a lot of comic book kind of stuff. SO is into comics, so we go to cousin’s art shows together. Cousin feels supported & likes SO for it. SO feels closer to cousin simply because he’s supporting him. We see cousin & his girlfriend more. Cousin’s parents see us supporting him and see our relationship as a positive thing…. it spills over. He just really needs to connect with one or two people and HE will start to view the family differently. 

Post # 5
22 posts

Oh, those sensitive geeky guys!! I got myself one too. For me, I just give reassurances. I also have told him whose opinions matter to me, and whose doesn’t. He knows my parents and siblings really like him and really those are the people who matter the most, as they know me the most.

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