So pretend you're a close friend or close family member invited to a wedding that is less than an hour a way in distance (some people 15 mins, some people at most an hour).
Pretend it's either on a Wednesday or Thursday, and it's at at about 6pm-11pm.
Would you take the next day off on either account?
ETA: Also, what time would you probably leave?
It'd be September 25th/26th
I would not take the day off, and would probably leave the reception early. I might go into work late the next day to get a little extra sleep, but there's no way I'd take the next day off completely.
Chances are, if it's on a Thur and I have the vac days saved up, I would take that Fri off. If it's on a Wed, I'd prob go until 9 and then leave. It's not likely that I wouldn't go to a wedding I'm invited to - I've only done that a handful of times (and when I've been 2nd tier anyway, but also couldn't go for other reasons). But, if I don't have a lot of days already accrued or maybe I'm busy at work and it's inconvenient, I might not take the Fri off either - so if I could, I would, but only if the wedding is on a Thur. Worst thing ever would be to take Thur off and then go back to work on Fri.. ugh sorry :/
I would go to the wedding, and stay late. And still go to work.
Unless it was like my brother, or someone very very close. Then I would probably take 2 days off.
If this is your wedding, have it on Thursday. People will probably make a long weekend out of it
I hate weekday weddings! but I am a grad student so I can't cancel class but I would if i could for a thursday affair
I'd go to work the day of if I could and I definitely wouldn't take the next day. I'd leave at 9:30/10, depending how far I had to drive home.
I would probably take the day off, but I do have a lot of vacation time, so it's no big deal for me to use a day.
If I was someone with only a small/limited amount I'd probably not take the day off.
If I wasn't taking the day off I'd probably leave by 10 or 10:30.
I wouldn't take the next day off but I also wouldn't party it up like I would if it was a weekend wedding. I'd probably leave a bit earlier if it was for the wednesday but stay right through to the end if it was the thursday.
Thanks for posting this as I am in the same boat :D
I am now leaning towards thursday. You?
I personally have attended many weddings on a tuesday. It is considered a lucky day to get married in my culture and never left before 10 and always went to work the next day. Even thoughI left for work at 4:30am. So to me this is no biggy.
I wouldn't take the next day off but I'd stay until the end
@secondchances: yay I'm not alone! lol
My fiance and I are both night people, even when we have to get up early. So we'd stay till 11 anyway. Pfffsh, 11pm. lol however, we know that is not the majority >_O we just couldn't afford a weekend unless we wanted to SERIOUSLY compromise on everything, OR pay like twice the price o_O
He wants to do the 25th because he just likes the date better, and doesn't think it'll matter between the two. I feel bad about asking people to come on a Wednesday, when a Thursday I think would be better... but maybe it doesn't matter that much since it's a weekday?
If you guys aren't torn between the actual dates, I'd definitely recommend Thursday. We just want to do the 25th because it's so much nicer than the 26th, and it'll be our anniversary for-ev-er. lol What's your reason for being between the days?
If it's a Thursday, DH and I *might* take the next day off and make a long weekend. Not if it's a Wednesday, though.
I'd go to work the next day.
If the wedding goes to 11, I'd probably stay to the end on either day. I like to be in bed by 12 on weeknights, but I'd stretch that to 1 or 2 on a Thursday night.
I probably woud try and take the next day off, but if I couldn't it wouldn't make a difference with regards to my attendance - I would do my best to be there.
If people are only travelling an hour and things don't kick of untill 6pm then that should be fine, although if people are working untill 5with an hours rive it doesnt leave much getting ready time at allPeople with kids may want to leave earlier though. I would say a Thursday wedding is much better than a wednesday as it gives the option of having a long weekend.
My brothers wedding was one of the worst I've been to, he had a pagan hand fasting on the tuesday (3hour drive, and in england that's like the other side of the country+ there was barely any food or drink and only one porta loo!) and then the legal bit on the thursday (another 3hour drive...), so yeh that was inconsiderate esp. as in England we tend to get married at lunch time as it's illegal after 4 or 5 (can't remember n/a to me). And the absolute worst wedding was on a Sunday. It was another one that didnt really consider guests either and we all left at 10 without drinking because of work the next day
Our wedding is on a weekday, but we are also having it in the morning. But attending a wedding at night on a weekday(assuming I have to work the next day) I am not sure I would stay all night. And unless you are family then I am sorry but I am not taking a day off work to recover from staying out all night. I might ask for a later shift the next day but that is about it. Chances are if it is a late wedding and I have work the next morning(and an hour drive home) then I would probably leave by 9.
I probably would not take the next day off and would leave after dinner/cake-cutting to get home at a reasonable time to wake up for work the next day. I probably wouldn't stay past 9:30.
I would probably leave work early the day of the wedding and either take the full day off the next day, or take the morning off. But my job is pretty flexible with that sort of thing, so it wouldn't be a big deal. If I couldn't take the next day off for some reason I would just leave earlier or go easy on the booze.
With my job, it's not hard to take off whenever I want, so I'd probably take both days off. If not, I'd make sure I was off early enough the day of to get ready and definitely take the next day off. It also depends who whose wedding it is...the harder I plan on partying makes a difference!
I think it's pretty obvious, but Thursday is preferable to Friday so you could just make it a 3 day weekend. If it was on a Wednesday, I would only attend the ceremony, eat some dinner and then head home.
I go to bed at 9 pm and wake up at 5:30 am for work. I can push 10 and be exhausted. If I lived 15 minutes away, I would leave the wedding at 9:45 at the latest. If I lived 1 hr away I would leave at 9 at the latest.
Probablly neither. I work for a strict company. Its hard to get time off. 5:00 is leaving time, no matter what. I wouldn't make it to the wedding and I'm in bed by 10:00 pm...
If I'm a close friend/family, heck yes I'm taking the day off! It's time to party! If I couldn't take the day off, I would still stay until the end and suck it up at work the next day.
Depending on how close of friends we are for the B&G I would probably NOT take the day off, but I'm being pretty stingy with my vacay this year due to the wedding and HM coming up... I would leave as soon as possible after dinner, first dances, cake cutting, etc. I like my sleep.
i wouldn't take the next day off and probably only stay until after dinner. that being said, i would only attend the ceremony if it was after regular work hours.
@yanamari: why is the date so important? if i certainly had to get married on a particular day and it was during the week, i'd go to the courthouse and then have my reception on the weekend when i knew that all of my guests could come and wouldn't have to worry about work the next day. have you considered that option? it's just that a wedding is a lot of work and money for just a few hours where some guests may not even stay that long.
If I had enough notice, I'd take the following day off as I like a drink, and would want to stay over rather than make my way back that night. I also don't think I'd relax as much if I knew I had work the next day.
But, I get 6 weeks leave a year, and because I work part-time, I can also swap shifts fairly easily ie it wouldn't really eat into my holiday. If I had a lot less vacation time I probably wouldn't book it off.
If I didn't book it off, I'd probably leave at 12 at the latest; my current job doesn't really involve me using my brain and I frequently go in hungover lol, but, I do need some sleep and would want to be home by 1am if I was getting up at say 7am.
If it was on Thursday I'd take Friday off. It were on Wednesday I'd either take 1/2 day off Thursday morning or I'd suck it up and go to work since I'd likely have to take 1/2 day the day of the wedding to attend. If I'm going to take a day off, I'd rather make it a long weekend.
I would not take the next day off, but I would probably stay to the end either way. As a guest, I would prefer a Thursday wedding, so I only had to work one more day and could catch up on sleep on Saturday.
@mypinkshoes: He just really likes the date. But what you're saying is exactly what I was thinking; why spend all this money if people are just going to leave early? There was no way we could afford a weekend, but I think Thursday would be more likely because people would probably take off or be inclined to stay later.
I considered the courthouse wedding part. I'm not sure he would go for it either though. I'm pretty sure he'd want it officially done in front of everyone on the actual wedding/reception day.
Thus... this poll. lol
I wouldn't take the next day off and I'd probably leave by 9:30ish if I had to drive home still.
I probably wouldn't go. A 6pm wedding an hour away means I'd have to take some time off the day of the wedding and I may have to take some time off the day after the wedding (if I had to count picking up the kids, driving an hour in LA traffic, going to a wedding/reception and driving back). Taking the time off wouldn't be a problem, but I'm a little stingy with my vacation time and I hate super long days.
I would probably go. Especially if she is a close friend. I would just leave around 10 or so. That way you are still enjoying her special day with her without charging time at work for the next day
I would go. Just leave aound 10 or so. That way it is still early enough that I can go home and get ready for work the next day
Can you do a Friday wedding? It's still much cheaper than a Sat wedding and much easier for guests to handle.
For me, it would depend on a lot of factors. For a Wednesday wedding, I would only go if it was someone very close to me. I definitely wouldn't take Thursday off just to come back to work on Friday.
For a Thursday wedding, I would go/stay late if I didn't have too much work that time of year (I'm an accountant, so it's fairly seasonal). In that case, I'd probably work from home the next day or just take a day off. If I felt like I would need to leave at 9, I probably wouldn't go unless it was someone close to me.
I've been to an out of town Sunday wedding (4 hour drive), and then I had to take the Monday off. I've also been invited to an out of town (also about 4-5 hour drive) Sunday wedding where I had to say no because the timing was too logistically difficult with my work and we weren't very close.
If it's an hour away, I'd leave by 9 PM. I wake up for work at 4:30 and I wouldn't take time off from my job.
i'd leave by around 9. i definitely wouldnt stay until 11 unless it was friday or saturday.
I voted that I would not request the day off from work the following day. If I lived an hour away, I likely would attend the wedding and would probably leave by 10 p.m.
Honestly, I probably would not go unless I was absolutely obligated to.
I'd take the next morning off if it was a close family member/friend.
If it was someone I wasn't so close with, I'd probably leave the reception around 10pm and not take any time off the next day.
For us personally, since we have kids my answer will probably be different than many people here.
I wouldn't stay past 9:30m in order to make sure my kids are in bed. My kids always think they can stay up late when DH and I aren't home so it's hard for others to get them to bed.
If it is a Wednesday or Thursday, I would not take the next day off. We have to request our days off like months in advance - it's really hard to get time off. Actually, I work evenings many tmes so I would possibly have to take the day off itself (I work rotating shifts)
Honestly, I would only go to a Wednesday or Thursday wedding if it was a really close friend of family member because of the problems.
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