Post # 1
A lot of times when FI and I go out and people ask me what I do, I say I go to medical school and then they ask oh are you going to be a nurse or something along those lines. If I was going to be a nurse, I would say nursing school.
I have absolutely nothing against nurses, the reason I didn’t go into nursing myself is because I see how overworked and underpaid they are while they’re the ones who are doing a lot of the “real” patient care.
It just really bothers me of what I see as an assumption of you’re female, so if you’re doing anything medically related it must be nursing. I feel its sexist (even when it comes from women) and is just as annoying as when some people go on to assume that I am going to be a housewife/SAHM (why the hell would I be putting myself through nursing/medical school just to quit after I get married?!?) or that I even want children.
Is there something else behind this assumption, can other bees please explain? Do bees in other fields get stuff like this too?
Post # 3
Uh, no idea. I know a couple chicks in med school and when they said they were going to med school I said something like “ooooh smarty pants! Ms Doctor, kickass!”
Post # 4
I say I’m in dental school and people assume for dental hygiene or assisting. I’m like, no, actual dentist.
Oh the joys of being in professional school
Post # 5
Wtf! Medical school=doctor. Doesn’t everyone know that?
I’m a chef. I’ve been asked several times (all older people) if I will keep working after I get married too. What? OF COURSE I WILL. Why would you think that I would quit my well paying job that I worked really hard for?
Ms. Doctor indeed! I agree with futuremrsj, kick ass!
Post # 6
Ugh, I get what you are saying. I’m almost finished with nursing school now and I often get, “You’re so smart, why didn’t you want to be a doctor? Is it because you’re a woman?” First off: rude. Secondly, I would hope you would want your doctor and nurse to be intelligent. Third, me being a woman has nothing to do with it.
People still can’t seem to separate that not all doctors are male, and not all nurses are female.
Post # 7
I guess it’s because my FFIL is a doctor, and I’m friends with several people in the medical field, but I’ve always assumed med school = doctor. Nursing never would have crossed my mind.
I actually only know one SAHM that’s not from a prior generation. It’s just not something that’s done in my social circle. Now when I lived in a different area (Southeast), the idea was a lot more common. So I’d say it’s generational and regional.
Post # 8
@IowaDDS13: Not to thread jack, but I love your avatar.
Post # 9
How strange, some people really have no idea! I’m a radiographer, and it seems like the patients call all of us who are female ‘Nurse’, and all who are male, ‘Doctor’ (eg, “Nurse, lift me”, uh yeah right). Sexist much?
Post # 10
I am sure its annoying, but its not really sexist because the division of labor is truley there.
As of 2003 92% of nurses were women. Based on this these people are making educated guesses based on statistics and facts. Its not actually sexist. I would say sexist would be to assume you couldnt be a doctor, not that you were in school to be a nurse.
Post # 11
I’ve never heard any comments like that before! I see more the PhD vs. MD ‘Dr.’ Comments like you shouldn’t call yourself a doctor if you don’t have a MD.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Medical School = Doctor for me. I got it a lot when I was just out of law school; “you’re just the paralegal/legal assistant/receptionist.” I know I missed out on some jobs because I looked too young (and female) to be an attorney. But the tides are changing fast and a majority of law school graduates are now women so it’s only a matter of time until a majority of attorneys are women too.
Post # 13
It’s just people’s gender bias going on. My husband is a nurse and in grad school to be a nurse practitioner, and constantly people think he is going to be a doctor. It actually bothers him b/c he’s doing his clinicals now and people think he’s a doctor, so he corrects them. He’s also had this happen at work, and its the worst when he walks into a room w/ a female doctor.
Post # 14
I’m a nurse and since high school when I told people I was going to be a nurse and was going to nursing school I get all this crap about “You’re too smart to be a nurse why aren’t you going to be a doctor?” Uhhmmm… because I hope you want a smart nurse to take care of you too?
We had a record number of men in our nursing class (15/62 were guys!!) and they get so much crap about being a “murse”, although it is funny when patients assume they are docs because they are guys. Many of the ED/critical care nurses are men, our entire ICU staff is frequently male.
Post # 15
@CrazyCatLady13: first of all there is nothing wrong with being a housewife so I wouldnt adress it in that way.
Med school = DOCTOR….
So it it bothers you so much tell them you are in studying to be a doctor. And there ends the dilema.
Think about it this way…people who dont know….Say nurse…if you are doctor it is a nice way to impress them…if you say medical school and you are going to be a nurse it is the easiest way to get the ” ohhhh ” it is just a way of being polite.
And there is nothing wrong with people asking you if you are going to stop working after getting married. Why are you getting so offended? it is a very nice moment to say : no i am looking forward to being a doctor.
It is a choice to get offended or just seing it as people taking interest in you and having healthy conversation.
Post # 16
Oh, also if someone in nursing referred to their education as med school or medical school that would get a big WTF from me (in my head) because no one I know refers to a nursing program using those terms.