Post # 1
We are considering getting married where we currently live attended by close group of family and having a larger reception a month or so later where FI and I are from.
Are gifts expected at this type of event? Should we register?
Post # 3
Lots of people will tell you that gifts should never be expected, but the receiving of a wedding invitation implies a gift should be given. Most people will.
If you’re comfortable registering or if people are asking where you are registered, then by all means do it. Depending on your family and friends and what they normally do for weddings, you’ll get some gifts and maybe cash. (I give gifts for showers and cash for weddings).
Post # 4
It doesn’t hurt to register. I think the real question is whether you want to pass out your registry info or not. 🙂
I say go for it!
Post # 5
I think you should register, if only for a shower and for familly/people at your actual wedding. Also the registry completion discount you get after is always nice 🙂
As far as gifts being expected at an at-home reception, some people get very sensitive about this. One of my friends did the smaller wedding/at-home reception thing last year and people not invited to the “real wedding” were pissed and refused to gift them. (This bride made it very clear to everyone invited to just the home reception where she was registered.)
I would not volunteer your registry info to anyone not actually invited to your wedding unless they specifically ask you but I do think you should register.
Post # 6
@busterbluth: That is awful. I hope people aren’t offended.
I should have rephrased that question: are gifts normally given at an at-home reception, even though it’s not a wedding?