(Closed) At home receptions?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Any of the ideas you mentioned are acceptable and done for AHRs. Though it sounds like something laid back and casual is what you want, so I say do that!  We did a BBQ AHR.  Literally the “bugers on the grill” idea u mentioned and it turned out great! We also set up a screen in our back yard and showed our wedding pics. And we served wedding cake and did a small toast. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012 - Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro

We had a party in my hometown area after we got married. We hosted it at a restaurant, and we had a little over 50 people come. It was a two course dinner plus ice cream cake and an open bar. Most of the people were within a 2 hour drive of the venue, though. We flew into town the day before and left the day after.

We didn’t have a dj or dancing or anything like that. I wore my wedding dress for about 30 minutes so my aunts could see my dress, and then I changed. 

It worked out well, and we had a lot of fun!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Our AHR is going to be formal, mostly for the reasons you noted.  Probably over 50%of our guest list lives out of town (4+ hrs) & will likely have to spend the night.  I didn’t think it really made sense to have people get a hotel room for a backyard shindig.  Plus, I just really wanted it to be formal…. but it HAS been like planning 2 completely separate weddings!

But if you’re keeping it mostly local, I say go for the casual approach! :o)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can do whatever you’d like to do!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What is the budget of a home town reception generally? Me and FI would like to hold one but are afraid of the cost. We have alot of friends that are missing out on our wedding and would love to have a party that includes them

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sienna76:  

Most of my guests live a 20 minute ride at the most from eachother but since me and FI will be residing in NYC and we dont have a home in Toronto where all of my firends and family are from we do not have a home to hold it at 🙁 Neither one of my parents live in homes that would hold the amount of people that would show up. So I am not sure what to do. I do not think we could afford a hall after the wedding costs. I know that alot of our friends that are not coming are expecting it though even though we never mentioned to any one doing it. Alot of people are like well I cant come to your wedding but I will be at the reception party you have when you come home. So we have been kind of feeling that since everyone assumed we are having one that we have to plan one ugh

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sienna76:  

Well being that I am having a destination the top 3 priorities for me are marrying my FI in an intimate environment, getting to spend quality time with our families and close friends and not to break the bank lol

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are having an at home reception and it is basically is a full on regular reception. I would have been fine with just a picnic but my parents insisted on having a reception. I know that it will be nice but I feel like it gives people an “out” from having to come to our destination wedding!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

@sienna76:  i got married in Jamaica and had our AHR in our hometown.  in our hometown, all my family came as they lived there. DH’s extended family was scattered around way up north and a couple of them surprised us and made a trip down to attend our BBQ!  DH’s sister also lived in our hometown and was one of the motivations for having the AHR since she couldnt come to Jamaica.  His parent also drove down from quite far even though they did come to Jamaica! they just wanted an excuse to see their kids again i think, lol.  so other than DH’s family, no one came from OOT even though we invited everyone to the AHR that we had invited to the Jamaica (although we were not expecting anyone to come from OOT).

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sienna76:  honestly, I would throw a big shindig–maybe set up tents outside–if I didn’t have budget for catering I would ask family to volunteer to cook, maybe even a BBQ

I wouldn’t do a stuffy formal reception, if that is what you wanted, you wouldn’t be having a destination/elopement in the first place!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

 

@nycbrde2011 I hear you. So many people commented on that with us as well. Especially FI’s family and my extended family. We even had one family member say “well you better have a reception at home or your won’t be getting my cheque”, classy! 

We are doing an at home reception although I wasn’t keen on the idea mostly because of the extra cost and because of the fact that I feel like we already will be having a wedding and I think it’s a bit silly to have two weddings. However, FI was really set on the idea, so we are going to have it in our backyard. We are estimating about 100-150 people. We are inviting some people who were not invited to our Destination wedding due to the fact that the wedding site (a villa in Tuscany) can only hold so many people. It will be open bar, with a full meal and cake but it will be much less decorated than our Destination wedding and the food will be much more casual. At the moment we are looking into the cost of having a pig/lamb roast. We will do mason jars with local wild flowers etc. I am estimating the cost to be around 3,000-4,000. We aren’t doing speeches or a ‘blessing’ etc. But we will likely set up an informal screen with a slide-show of our wedding pictures.

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