(Closed) at home recpetion – is it okay to not invite EVERYONE?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think I’d be a little upset to find out that I wasn’t invited to an AHR after being invited to the real one, but I think you can have the party you want without inviting everyone if you kept it low-key and didn’t call it a reception.  Just call it a bbq.

Post # 5
Member
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, it’s pretty rude to invite people to a destination wedding, but not the at-home reception.

Post # 6
Hostess
11299 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@dynamic_duo: I can totally see your situation. Like you I’d be tempted to do it as you intend and I’d like to think if I was one of the out of towners I would just think you were doing something for the people who live in your town so therefore I wouldn’t be offended. If that makes sense.

Post # 7
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2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with gcwest.  Just don’t call it a reception.  Call it a bar-b-q.  Are you needing to call it a reception because you’d like to receive wedding gifts?

Post # 8
Hostess
11299 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ah yeah I forgot to put that, I agree with @gcwest & @2ndtime don’t call it a reception, just a BBQ, then it doesn’t sound like they’re missing out on something.

Post # 10
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@dynamic_duo: I would invite everyone and just hope they don’t show, or if they do just take it as a sign of how many people love you. In this case, as a guest I would much rather be crammed in like sardines then have people’s feelings hurt.

Post # 12
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Ive invited some coworkers and wish I could take that back. Well, technically so far they have only been invited to my shower. Now I am sitting here staring at their invitation in the envelope glaring. They are no longer working with me for the summer but they may be back for fall so I really dont want to seem like a jerk if they come back! So torn…

Post # 13
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9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it’s fair enough not to invite people that your relationship has changed with.  What’s the chances that they’d ever even know there was a party happening?

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