- 4 years ago
I am getting really tired of FI’s lack of communication in our relationship. We used to text some throughout the work day ESPECIALLY when we were in different cities for work related trips, and now, many days go by when I may get one or even no messages from him at all. I Know he is busy, but really? It does not take long to type out a text. He used to send one every single morning from the office– i mean for years– and he has stopped doing that almost entirely.
Additionally, I cannot seem to get him to do anything “romantic” at all. We havent been on a real date in weeks due to time constraints and busy schedules, but even when I hint at it, he doesnt take initiative. I essentially have to plan the whole thing out. There is no romance/spontaneity there. I really want HIM to plan it!
Finally, our conversations (in person and over phone when we are distance) have gotten a million times shorter. Many times its like he cant wait to get off the phone- he is not a phone person. He is tired a lot due to his job, but most days our talks dont extend beyond small talk at best. We dont confide our deepest secrets, fears, dreams etc. anymore. It’s just the bland monotony of day-to-day life.
Any advice is appreciated. No snarky comments, please.
PS we’ve been together a little more than 3 years now and are finally living in the same place most of the time, after 2 years of long distance.