Post # 1
I’m not married, I’m not engaged, I do not have a boyfriend, and I am not talking to anyone. I am as single as one can get. A year ago, I met an awesome guy through work and began dating him (unofficially) six months later. I thought he was perfect aside from one circumstance; he was close extremely friends with an ex-girlfriend (as well as her entire family) and, the more I thought about it, the more I decided it wasn’t a situation I particularly wanted in my life. Now, months after I stopped seeing him, I can’t help but regret my decision. I am alone, all of my friends are in relationships, and, to top it off, he was – by far – the most normal, intelligent, attractive, wholesome guy I’d ever met.
I am worried that now, at my age, I’ll be left with the men nobody else wanted and that all the good ones are already in LTRs or married. I know that sounds depressing, but, like I said, I am the only single person in my entire group of friends. In fact, most people my age are involved. I just can’t help but feel like I’m going to end up alone. I have been in long-term relationships and have casually dated, but now that I’m older I don’t see a world of opportunity out there when something ended like I used to even a few years ago.
Did any of you meet your spouse after 24? Do you feel like you “settled” in any way, or is this person, by far, the best person with whom you’ve been?
Post # 3
You’re 24. You have a TON of time to meet someone and have kids. Enjoy your twenties 🙂
Post # 4
You are still so young. Enjoy this time of your life. Do not fret or stress. Just when you’re not looking it will happen.
To answer your question I just got married for the first time to the most amazing man I know. I’m significantly older than you.
Post # 5
girl, you sound just like my best friend.
not that it’s any of my business, but doesn’t joining a website that revolves around people getting married depress you even more…anyways
I am 24 now and I started dating my fiancee at 22 and we are getting married next year. I thought I would NEVER find someone, I was extremely picky…so I decided one day “f— this” and i decided I was going to finish school doing tons of volunteering, get an amazing career and love life being single, it’s a new day and age, i don’t NEED a man! and then POOF, when I least expected it there he was.
I am going to be the second of all of my friends where I currently live to be married. No one else here is remotely close, 30 is more the age people here get married. Back where I’m from though, many are already married. It all depends. Don’t stress!
Post # 6
My roommate’s mother and father met at their 10th high school reunion! (well, they knew each out vaguely–knew OF each other) but did not date until their reunion– roughly age 28. Married around 30 🙂 Been married ever since!
Post # 7
Oh gosh! you have lots of time. I met my Darling Husband at 25 (I think) or maybe it was 24?? Either way I have lots of friends in their late 20’s and early 30’s that are single.
Its not a race to finish, its only about being happy. Love your self, love the things you can do while being single and the relationship will follow when you are happy and confident.
Post # 8
My SO met me when he was 26.
My best friend met her husband when she was 28.
The boat only leaves when you want it to! You’re the captain of the boat! 😉
Post # 9
I met Darling Husband at 25. He was 26. You have plenty of time.
Post # 10
lol oh hun you have lots of time! This age is great to meet guy’s. By now most should have some of there shit together. If it helps I was 24 when Fiance and I met and we are now getting married 7yrs later.
Have fun, you’ll never know when he will show up but he will. I met Fiance in a McDonalds Drive thru. My boss was 30 when she meet her hubby.
Best of luck.
Post # 11
You have completely missed the boat. As an unmarried spinster you will be forced to stay at home, take care of your elderly parents, and then die a virgin. Perhaps you could be the second wife to a widower or an older gentleman so you aren’t cast out in the street in your old age – as women cannot inherit property, naturally.
Oh, wait, holy shit, this isn’t 1865 is it?
Average age women get married at in the U.S. is, I think, 28. Wait for the person you want to marry, don’t just do it to do it.
Post # 12
You are VERY young. My SO and I met when we were 33 and 36. You’ll meet someone!
Post # 13
You are young, so don’t worry about that. I am 33, getting married in three months, no kids. And its ok, it just took me longer to find the man of my dreams. If you miss this guy that much, reach out to him, ask him to meet you for coffee. Good luck.
Post # 14
It will happen when it is meant to. Sounds cheesy, but it is so true.
Post # 15
I was 26 and he was 28. It took us four years to get it right, and we got engaged this fall. While we were broken up, though, I felt a lot like you. You probably ought to be making meeting men slightly more of a priority, but I don’t think it becomes a Big Deal until you’re about 35.
And no, I don’t feel like I settled. I was engaged before, but broke it off (at the ripe old age of 28, no less!) because I didn’t want to settle, and I knew if I stayed with my ex, I would be. I think reading “Marry Him: The Case for Settling For Mr Good Enough” was a bit to blame. Stay away from that book, girl!
Post # 16
In all seriousness, I’m guessing you live in an area where everybody gets married at 19 and is divorced by 27 (my parents live in such an area)….there are tons of unattached single men. Personally, know one engaged couple, a few couples in commited relationships, but overwhelmingly my friends (all 23-26) are single.