(Closed) at what age is a child “a guest”?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: which age is a child old enough for their own seat?
    1 : (6 votes)
    16 %
    2-3 : (9 votes)
    24 %
    4-5 : (16 votes)
    42 %
    6-7 : (2 votes)
    5 %
    8+ : (5 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I didn’t include them as +1’s unless they actually are old enough to sit in a seat by themselves. If they are lap babies, I didn’t include them.

    Post # 4
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Are you thinking in terms of reporting the numbers to the caterers or when filling out their RSVP card (i.e. We have reserved X seats in your honor)?  I’m going to respond assuming you mean when filling out the RSVP card.  I was planning on reserving a seat in honor of any warm body no matter how old they are.  I don’t know what etiquette says if there is any on that topic however it does say their name needs to be listed in they are invited and I’m sure that goes for all ages.

    Post # 5
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Also, the parents might bring the child in with a car seat.  They would probably need a seat for them.  But I’m curious what other Bee’s think.

    Post # 7
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think everyone but babes in the arm (infants) are guests.

    Talk to your venue and see how they prefer to handle small children. You won’t be the first with this situation. You may be able to set-up a children’s table and hire a teenager to watch the kids there.

    Post # 8
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    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    For kids over 1, we added a seat at the table for them and rented them a high chair.  For kids over 4, they got a regular seat at the table.  I figured the kids probably wouldn’t be in their seats the whole time, but I’d rather have planned for too much room than too little.

    Post # 9
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    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House

    I vote around age 4. Before then, they’d probably sit on a parent’s lap.

    Post # 11
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    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Ask your venue and caterer for their policy. They probably don’t charge extra for for food for lap babies, but if it’s an issue of capacity and fire codes, they might count them.

    Post # 12
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think any child under 3 wouldn’t really need a chair and for catering I’d count them as 1/2 since small kids don’t sit still for very long and won’t really like a lot of different types of food. Most people I’ve seen who have babies or toddlers have just put the carriers on the floor and let them sit on their laps.

    Post # 13
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    As of right now, I’ll be counting all people no matter the age as a headcount requiring a seat.  As for the caterer, I plan on asking them what age to count but otherwise I think a 4 year old and older is eating the food.

    Post # 14
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    we are counting all children big enough to eat table food… my daughter is 2 and i would be upset if i attended a wedding where i would be expected to hold her in my lap all night. now as far as food is concerned most places count them as 1/2 for buffet style and normally offer something less gourmet for plated dinners we are serving chicken fingers and fries for guest under 12   

    Post # 15
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    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My location counts any child over 3 as their own person…

    Post # 16
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree with @monitajb –

    Anyone but an infant is probably a guest, but ask your venue/ caterer for their policy.

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