At what age should boys stop using the women's restroom?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: At what age should boys stop using the women's restroom?
    Boys should always be welcome in the ladies room : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Use a family restroom- they should never be in the ladies room : (15 votes)
    8 %
    3 years old : (12 votes)
    7 %
    4 years old : (13 votes)
    7 %
    5 years old or when they start school : (68 votes)
    38 %
    6-7 years old : (37 votes)
    21 %
    8-9 years old : (19 votes)
    11 %
    10 years old : (10 votes)
    6 %
    11-12 years old : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @FLBlonde93:  That’s interesting – I have no idea.  I’ve never really seen boys that old using the restroom.  My MIL started letting her daughter use the bathroom by herself around 9 or 10 – so I’d probably say around that age?

    ETA – I think your situation is different, since there were multiple boys.  I think when there are more than 1, they can look out for each other.  Now, one 8 year old?  Maybe I’d be a little more lenient, but more?  I don’t know…

    Post # 4
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    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’ve seen even older boys in them. It honestly freaks me out, there was one that looked 13-14 once. EEK!

    Post # 7
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    10 years of age sounds right. Mostly because they should be able to behave by that time. Doing that at an earlier age, between maybe 7 and 9, is just fine too. 

     

     I don’t really have a problem with boys being in the bathroom if they are there because they are with their mom or female family member. It would be courteous of the mom or female family member to have them wait outside if the boy is able to do so, though. 

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 8
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    2189 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I voted 5. But that’s hard, it’s a scary thought to end your little guy into the mens room by himself, with all the weirdos out there. But I think over 6 seems weird to me, at that age they should be able to yell/run/leave etc.

    I have a 3 year old boy who still goes in with me, it’d be ridiculous to send your 3 year old into the public restroom by themselves or leave them outside alone.

    Post # 9
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    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Interesting topic.

    I have encountered this in a bit different scenario… our community centre / swimming pool.  When the kids were little My Ex and I came up against this often, as back then there were no “Family Change Rooms” like there are now.

    We always felt the acceptable age range was up to the age of Grade 1 (or about 6 years old).

    After that kids shouldn’t be in the facilities for the opposite sex.

    Not long after we came to this conclusion on our own (and thereby had to alter our schedules so we could both go to swim lessons with them, guys in one room, gals in the other) the facility put up an actual sign to the effect that there were to be no boys over 6 in the Ladies Change Room… and no girls over 6 in the Mens Change Room.

    And then a year or so later, they built a seperate Family Change Room (which has cubicles inside with doors… vs open concept)

    I still think that 7 is the cut off point for what I find is and isn’t accpeptable on this subject.

    I know it is awkward if one Parent is out with the kids, and worry about them going into a Bathroom unattended…

    BUT at the same time, more and more places do have lockable co-ed facilities (washrooms labeled as M-F-Handicap) so one can find a solution if they look hard enough.

    10 or so… is much too old for a boy to be in the Ladies Room.

    Hope this helps,

     

    Post # 11
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    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @FLBlonde93:  It defintitely is. By that point they’ve probably done sex ed and are getting curious about girls.. eww. It was really disturbing.

    Post # 12
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    1867 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    It’s tricky, I think, as I know I only recently (like within the last year) felt totally comfortable with my daughter going into a public restroom alone. When she was out alone with her father and either had to go, they’d either use a family restroom where available or the larger, lockable stalls designed for wheelchair users. If it’s a group of children that age, I’d feel reasonably comfortable letting them stand outside the washroom together.

     

    I have to say, I’d be much more comfortable with male children in the ladies’ room than female children in the mens’ room, given women’s washrooms exclusively have cubicles while men’s still typically have urinals.

    ETA – my daughter is 10, so it’s really just at this age that I think it becomes a bigger issue.

    Post # 13
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    They’re just bathrooms! The doors are closed.

    I wouldn’t feel comfortable telling my kid to just wait by him or herself unless they were 10+.

    I definitely don’t have an issue with 9 year old boys in the ladies’ room. My brother is 9–he has NO interest in girls!

    Post # 15
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    4076 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @FLBlonde93:  It doesnt bother me unless they are peeking under the doors!

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