Post # 1
Darling Husband and I have been talking about babies a lot lately. We’ve only been married a little over 2 months and I’m kinda liking the honeymood period. I am thinking if we have a child, we should wait until my step-daughter is at least 5 (she is 3 now). She is the only grandchild, and I’m afraid she’ll act out at her young age because of a new baby (did I mention she is spoiled rotten?). Darling Husband thinks the opposite. I could be wrong, afterall, I am the youngest in my family and I have never had children.
My question to all of you bees who planned your pregnancies…at what point did you say, “okay, this is accomplished, I’ve done this…etc., now it’s time to think children”?
Post # 3
Before we got married, we agreed to start trying after we’d been married a year. That way we had time to settle into married life and could ease into parenthood. We were already financially stable, and both knocking on our 30s, so age and money didn’t really factor in. And we got pregnant shortly before our 1-year anniversary.
Post # 4
Me? I’ve known since I was a child that I wanted to have babies. Haha. But as for in our relationship, we know we want to start trying once our financial situation settles down. FI is going to start his plumbing business very soon so I’m crossing my fingers.
Post # 5
Ever since I can remember I have wanted to be a mother. DH causally mentioned during our engagement that we should start trying after the wedding and I jumped right on that suggestion! Baby’s due in March.
Post # 6
Between Darling Husband and I, I’m ready tomorrow. BUT in reality we want to buy a house first, which will hopefully be this summer. In that case, maybe 1 year after that, but no more as I’m already 30 and we want 2 more.
Post # 7
Darling Husband and I got married both vowing that we’d most likely never have kids. It’s not something either of us wanted, we see too many kids being brought up wrong and we are aware of the huge sacrifice that has to be made, so we always thought we’d be that cool aunt and uncle who are jetsetting around the world.
But at a family vacation late this summer, I kind of had an epiphany. I can’t really explain it so it makes sense, but it reminded me of my childhood and how much love there was as a family unit and something just clicked. I realized that Darling Husband and I have too much love to give to NOT try and have kids.
So now I”m just waiting to have my surgery in early Jan then we will probably start trying. I just turned 30 so I don’t have the luxury of waiting any longer to save money, etc.
Post # 8
@CountryGirl80: I have always known that I wanted to be a mother ever since I could remember….. However, I knew that I wanted to wait until I got married…. I have watched family members and friends have babies all around (not counting the 8 nieces and nephews that I have, lol)…..Trust me, I have heard it all “do you NOT want kids”…..”don’t wait too long because you are not getting any younger”…. BUT, I was determined to wait until the time was right for me (finish school, good job, and my future husband)….. I am 31 now and we will be getting married in July…… Fiance and I both want to start after we say “I DO”…… everything is working out perfectly and hopefully this time next year, we will be pregnant….. (If it’s meant to be)!!!
Post # 9
when my fiance proposed is around the time we knew we wanted to have kids. but we’re still renting right now. we know that after we get married.. we would prefer to buy a house in the subarbs and then try to have kids. but we’re ok with whatever life throws at us 🙂
Post # 10
I have always wanted to be a Mom and baby fever kicked in high gear after getting engaged.
My Fiance and I have talked it over many times and we are set to TTC on our 3rd year wedding anniversary. We are both young (22/23), would like to finish college (May 2012), buy a house (hopefully around march-april 2013), we are both collge hires at a so we would like to settle into our careers and travel a bit more these next few years.
Post # 11
I’ve known since I was 5 that I wanted children–specifically, 2 girls.
When Fiance and I got together, we had set out a 5-year plan in which we’d get engaged/married, buy a house, and then have a baby. However, our Dirty Delete was born in year 3, we just bought a house in year 10 (and, a-half), and will be married after 11-and-a-half years, next August. LOL! Baby #2 will either be conceived shortly before the wedding, or just after.