At what point is it okay to inquire about a gift?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think its ever okay to inquire about where a gift is. I see the issue here though. If it were me I would likely just buy the one I want and return the other if it ever shows up.

Post # 4
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you’re gut feeling on just contacting them and being like “Hey so greatful for your gift, I just want to make sure everything is ok b/c I haven’t seen it and would hate for something to have happened”

You could also mention you get registry updates when someone purchases you a gift.

Post # 5
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2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I would try the amazon route first, then if you get nowhere I would buy it myself then just return the one they got you when it eventually arrives. Either way I hope you get one soon!

Post # 6
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2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Shipping directly from Ikea is insanely expensive, because it’s hand delivered by truck instead of UPS, FedEx, etc.  Is it possible that one of them is going to be driving it out to you?  (I realize this is kind of a dumb question if they live across the country, but thought I’d ask anyway.)

@Bazinga:  Amazon’s Universal wish list feature lets you put items from ANY website on it.  Contacting Amazon won’t get her anywhere because it wasn’t purchased from them.

Post # 7
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know how IKEA deliver in the US but over here their deliveries can be slower than some places because they use their own trucks and wait until they have a full load to deliver in the same geographical area. So when I bought our couch, new chairs and some bedroom furniture I waited about 3 weeks for it to arrive. So don’t lose hope yet!

Post # 8
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1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I would just say what happened, say that you were looking at your registry to see what final items were left on the registry that you still needed and saw it was purchased but has not been delivered. Say sonething along the lines of you were intending on purchasing it soon but just wanted to check with them first so you dhaver end up with two. 

Post # 9
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would first try to track it down through ikea or amazon, then I would ask. I really don’t think it’s a big deal to ask about it. If someone ordered and paid for a gift for you and it got lost, they want to know. It’s not rude to make sure something they paid good money for didn’t get lost in the mail. I’d probably wonder what was wrong with you if you kept quiet and I found out 6 months later that something I paid for got sent to someone in Peru or some ridiculous shit like that

Post # 10
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1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Did they “give” you the gift yet?  Meaning, did you have a shower already or did you just look at your items before your shower and know it’s purchased but hasn’t arrived?  They may have shipped it to their own house and will bring it to the shower, assuming that’s why you set up the registry (for the shower).

If you hadn’t had your shower yet, I’d wait until after that to purchase gifts or inquire about missing ones.  I know it’s hard to not get excited and want things here now and organized, but you do have a bit of time so I’d wait if you can. 

Post # 11
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s been 3 weeks and you’ve already had your shower, right? I would definitely give her a call and ask!

Post # 13
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@iarebridezilla:  I would do that or call the coworkers and see if they can locate it for you.

Post # 15
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@iarebridezilla:  Did they tell you they ordered it or does it just say they did from the registry?

Which table is it? I just plugged in a random changing table (Sundvik black/brown) and it tells me this upon check out (I didn’t have to complete it to get this message). Soooo you should have gotten it by now unless it’s out of stock, and they should have a confirmation and tracking number.

 

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