- 4 years ago
This year would make it 3 years since ive been with my bf. He lives 3 hours away via train. We try and always have one long weekend once a month and now recently started having day trips together so it breaks up that long gap until another long weekend.
My issue is that I am ready to settle down, I’m ready to take teh next step, he isnt fond of moving in togetehr before marriage so no cohabitting so its like a waiting game. I get frustrated and upset with the distance and get in a mood over it. How does everyone cope with being ready and the other person not being?? I feel like im wasting my time, my precious youth that i’ll never get back. Im 25 he’s 28, his reply to everything is that he doesnt understand why women put time on everything, if you want to be with someone forever it shouldnt matter when things happen….. he says he sees me in his future but yet we dont talk about the future and marriage or anything thats suggests he sees me in his future unless i ask him. It gets on my nerves and im tired, it feels like im waiting for him to make up his mind about me and I believe that after 3 years someone should knwo what they want. OR is it just me??
He also says that women should concentrate on making a guy feel as though they cant see their lives without them and being happy ‘now’ and the future will take care of itself, how marriage shouldnt be rushed or youll end up getting divorced and he doesnt want to get divorced so he isnt rushing into anything. All this does i frustrates me and gets on my nerves. I ask him when will he know when he wants to get married? he says BS like ‘when the feeling hits me!!’ I’m like waht feeling is that?? hes like ‘the time when I know i want to get married’. Is this guy just leading me on or taking the p**S? I’m just irritated now.
lol Sorry this is so long