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I think you need to see someone. It sounds like you don't have anyone that you can really talk to that can help you get through the problems that you are having. All the money things you are going through are truly stressful and you need somene to talk to.
@MamaHusky3: I think you should make an appointment for the beginning of January when your insurance kicks in. I have a counselor I have seen off and on since I was about 13. I love having her there to talk to. It sounds like you may benefit from it. I personally don't think seeing a counselor is a bad thing and whenever I go it REALLY helps.
You might be able to see if you can get a couple discounted sessions in, you sound pretty low.
I agree with the others. I believe that talking to a professional is very important. The unfortunate thing is, most, if not all, insurance companies make it very expensive to see a therapist. On my current insurance and my husband's insurance, it is so inexpensive to see a GP and even a specialist. However, if you want to see a therapist, there are all these stipulations.
Why is it that insurance companies don't believe that mental health is just as important as physical health?
If theres any question at all, it's time to see a professional. There is no shame in seeking help. Heck, I think everyone can benefit from having a completely unbiased person to talk to! Wishing you the best and hope you can find what you're looking for.
im a firm believer in therapy. with or without problems, it really helps to talk to someone who doesnt have a biased opinion. I say go for it as soon as insurance allows.
There's no shame in seeking help. We pay big bucks to have someone teach us how to swing a golf club or succeed at a sport or give us our education, but it's rare that we spend that same investment on our emotional health. I think it's a great investment. This is something that our marriage counselor pointed out in regards to any marrital troubles down the road, and I think it applies to our individual troubles too. Best of wishes!
It may take a few trys to find the fright therapist, but it can be worth it. Don't settle on any therapist. They just have a way of helping you see what it really causing the problems. Or you could find a good self help book that can help you manage stress and anxiety if you you a person who can learn and take it in.
I think if you are already questioning it in your own mind, that you need to go seek some help. If you are a Christian seek a Christian Counselor as they can give you the best advice. If not go see someone you are comfortable with. Check if your work gives you EAP (Employee Assistance Program) in a lot of cases you can go and see someone for free for 3 sessions. It's worth checking into.
Advice: Be prepared for the tough things and be prepared to open up and really evaluate yourself and answer questions you never thought you would answer or see in yourself. It can be truely eye opening though. It helped me however, I wouldn't mind going back as I was never able to keep going due to finances/loss of job at that point. It's worth it in the long run.
Good luck and keep your head up. You already have great support you just have to recognize that. Let us know how you are doing.
If there is something in your life that is bothering you, you owe it to yourself to work on it. Truly. I think therapy is beneficial to most people - you may not need to go for long, or very often, but if something is bringing you down and you can't seem to overcome it yourself, it is great to seek out someone to help you see things more objectively. So go!
I agree that I'd wait until January to make that appointment. If insurance becomes an issue, many therapists will work on a sliding scale. And if you don't like the first one you see, try another. It can take time to get the right person - when you do, it can be life-changing.
Good luck :)
I went to a therapist "when I was your age". I went through a lot of traumatic situations in a 5 year period. It did help to go once a week and just cry. As Yearns4God states, definitely be prepared to open up and be honest about the tough questions. I only went for 6 weeks and never had to go again. However, those sessions really gave me some tools to deal with stressful situations in the future.
If you can't afford to pay for it and your company doesn't have an EAP program, perhaps a minister could help or direct you to free/discounted assistance as well.
thanks for all the replies...
guess i'm just afraid of sounding silly...i know there are a lot of people out there who are truly sick or who have way worse problems than me...
but looks like the general consensus is i should definitely go... i wouldnt even know where to start...
The problems you are having are a big deal to YOU, which doesn't make them stupid or silly. Once you get on your parents' insurance, look on their website for doctors that are covered. They should have a listing.
I think the first step in helping yourself is knowing that you should go and talk to someone. It sounds like you're getting to that point. You're feeling overwhelmed and want someone to talk to, and you should make an appointment to see someone. It's not about if a specific issue is "serious" enough for you to talk to someone about it...it's your overall feeling of anxiousness and being overwhelmed that makes me see that you would definitely benefit from talkign with someone.
Also, the fact that your mom suffers from clinical depression would be enough for me to say that you should talk with someone! Start with a psychologist. If your company has an Employee Assistance Program, they sometimes offer a few free visits with a counselor. If you don't have insurance now, but are going onto your dad's plan, his health provider might be able to help you find someone who would suit you.
I hope you start to feel better after you start talking with someone. I think you will!
i'm taking all your advice. i never heard of the employee assistance program and it made me think if an employer offers free sessions then maybe colleges do to? i'm still a part time student so i'm looking into that now..
thanks again everyone.
Go! Go now! Don't wait. Your mental health is precious and everyone deserves a little help and support.
Search around you for sliding-scale clinics; these are places that charge based on income and don't require you to have insurance. Look for training institutes as well, they often offer cheap therapy. I work in a sliding scale clinic and my clients pay anywhere from $5-75 per session. Most private therapists charge upwards of $125 in my area.
If you can swing the cost - do it. The money is well worth it when you consider how much it sounds like you're struggling.
If you have any other questions, PM me. I'm a therapist in training myself, I may be able to answer more questions that you have about finding the right fit.
Take care of yourself.
Yes, colleges usually offer free counseling centers. My university offered a mental health center and you had a certain number of free visits. Many companies have the EAP and you dont even know it. Mine does - thats how DH and I got our pre-marital counseling for free! Also, many places run on a sliding scale for students or in general for people who dont earn a lot of money. There is never a time that you shouldnt consider therapy. Therapy is wonderful and it can help you in so many ways!
Haha, I love the argument of "There are worse off people than me!" I feel the same way, but it turns out there was still plenty of "stuff" building and building, and I had very little self awareness about that and how much it was affecting me. I wish I had gone sooner. If I had, things might have been easier. Since you're saying you're not coping well on your own, that probably won't change. Might as well address it sooner rather than later when things may feel even worse.
Think of it this way... If you had a chronic illness - like MS - there is a spectrum of "how bad is it." Maybe one person can't walk, and another person lives life at 95% "normal" - they still both need to go to the doctor and take their medication. What else is there?
Hope that helps!
@MamaHusky3: When I was a student, our campus counselors to talk to. I had some issues to work out and they provided that service free. You might want to check and see if your school offers something like that. I am so glad I went and spoke with them, saved my life I think.
i'm pretty sure all colleges have counselors available. see them for now, and they'll be able to refer you to someone once your insurance kicks in (the ones at my school would only see you maybe 5 times, then refer you elsewhere, because there just weren't enough of them on campus)
many universities have free counseling open to the community if you live near a university. The counselor are graduate students, but well trained and supervised by a professional. Also, may counselors offer special priceing to low income patients and they will take on a few of these low income patients a year.
many universities have free counseling open to the community if you live near a university. The counselor are graduate students, but well trained and supervised by a professional. Also, may counselors offer special priceing to low income patients and they will take on a few of these low income patients a year.
Talking to someone can never hurt but it doesnt always help. You need to find a counselor that is a good match for you. This can be a hit or miss sort of deal.
I don't think there is really a set point where someone should see a professional. Basically when you feel like you just can't stand it anymore or like nothing else is working to make you feel better. Definitely make an appointment. If money is an issue and stressor for you, it might be better to wait till January. It's only a month away and hopefully your mind will be kept off of things in this busy season.
If you're feeling low (and you sound like you are) do it! I agree with the others who said mental health is so SO important!
The point at which you seek professional help is when you have to ask yourself, should I seek professional help? I didn't even have to read your post to know that counseling would do you good. I really hope you are able to get some. If cost is an issue, I would check out universities in your area that have graduate programs in counseling---these programs usually have clinics run by masters and doctoral students in counseling that are low cost.
It sounds like you have got a lot of stuff on your plate, and an objective third party opinion will do wonders to help you sort it all out. Sometimes it isn't just one giant problem but an accumulation of many little ones. There's no need to be ashamed. ::hugs::
Mental health services are usually available, free of carge, you just need to look. Some therapists will also work out a payment pllan for you until you get your insurance. I would say go. THERE"S NO SHAME IN ANY OF IT!!!! Things will only get owrst with time. If you are happy with FI, can you imagine how much better things could be? If your mom is clinically depressed, there is a chance you are/will be too. Unfortunately these things seem to be hereditary, especially in women.
I will tell you a personal story- my sis struggled for many years and functioned. When menopause started, at a very difficult time in life (hubby left her with twins age 13 both special needs) and she had a total break down and even lost her daughters, house, everything but her family. After 3 yrs she is now doing so well, and getting her daughters back in a few months. Life is too short and precious to waste, get help now, let it out, move on and enjoy every minute you have!!
Realizing you need to talk is half of the battle, good lck and best wishes...won't all be easy but definately worth it! All colleges offer confdential help and referring you out. Just call the 800 # for your dad's insurance and they will walk you thru it.
I'm so sorry you are suffering. I have a history with depression and similar feelings to what you are going through. Asking for help from a doctor or therapist is nothing to be ashamed of. There is help out there for you and no need for you to suffer! I promise you that if you just go talk with someone, and maybe even consider taking an anti-depressant, you will feel so much better. Depression is largely bio-chemical in nature and not "all in your head". It can be treated with meds and makes a huge difference. Please don't be afraid to see someone! <3 Best of luck.
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i have so many issues going on in my life, i feel like i'm suffocating sometimes...quarter-life crisis is a real thing, no joke.....i feel like i cant talk to my mom cause she has her own issues and she suffers from clinical depression at times so its hard to come to her with my problems....i dont really have any close best friends right now cuz they all have their own issues in their lives....and FH is always there for me but sometimes his comforting words are only a temporary fix and the next day or two days or week, i'll find myself overwhelmed all over again....
today is just one of those days... :-/
i dont have insurance right now but will be going on my dads in january til sept when i turn 26.....
at what point do you stop and say, you know what, i think i need to see someone. like seek professional help.
is there a borderline for what can be classified as a serious-enough issue to turn to a therapist/doctor??
is it worth the money to go see one??
i'm tired of hiding behind a wall of shame, i need to know if a childhood experience is real or just my fears making them seem real, i'm tired of pretending that going thru foreclosure and bankruptcy is not emotionally damaging, i'm tired of hating coming to work....its not even a bad job, i enjoy architecture and am blessed to be working at a firm, but tired of working in general....just so many issues....
what should i do??