- 5 years ago
I’m new to the board, although I’ve been hanging around for a little while, taking it all in 🙂 I’m not ‘officially’ engaged yet but me and my lovely other half are making plans to get married this year I hope my post doesn’t come across as judgmental of non-believers as this definitely isn’t the case. I’m hoping to find someone who has experienced this, or similar as to how I might go about dealing with this.
I’ve started thinking about the bridal party, which won’t be huge as we’re getting married abroad and only want close family and friends present. I was considering asking two of my long-time friends, along with my sister to be bridesmaids but my relationship with one of my friends isn’t as close as it used to be and hasn’t been for the last couple of years really. I think this is due to relationships and possibly, the fact that I am now baptised, whereas she doesn’t believe in God. I could be wrong though. I have been unsure as to whether or not I should ask her to be bridesmaid, which I’ll try to explain.
Generally, my friend’s lack of faith isn’t an issue as it’s her personal choice but for me, our wedding ceremony will be symbolic of our union before God. We plan to have a religious wedding and whilst of course, we have friends that don’t believe in God, it’s become more important to me that the bridal party are supporters of our union in it’s true meaning. This is just my feeling on it….
Today, I was surprised and very disappointed to read a Facebook status written by this friend, basically, attacking people that talk about God on Facebook. Her post was harsh and very critical of religious posts. Whilst I respect her opinion and her choice not to believe in God, it made me think twice about asking her to be bridesmaid because for one, this is going to a religious ceremony with some symbolic gestures to show that God is in the middle of this relationship. Right now, I can’t see how someone who not only doesn’t believe in God, but has gone out of their way to attack believers who discuss God online will be able to take part in the ceremony, wholeheartedly.
I love my friend and also, my other good friend who I will be asking to be bridesmaid is a practicing Muslim so it’s not that everyone present must be religious, or must be a Christian at all. I feel like it’d be funny for me to ask my other friend, now that I know she holds these views, yet, she is still a dear friend.
I wondered whether anyone had experienced anything like this at all? If so, what did you think/do? I didn’t see this one coming!