- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I have no idea what to do with this – I would love to hear what everyone else thinks.
My Future Sister-In-Law is an atheist. The kind of atheist that likes to argue about it. She thinks its funny when the family prays at large meals, so she refuses to bow her head and close her eyes. She is always laughing and trying to get other people to laugh as the prayer is being said. I have always found it INCREDIBLY disrespectful and offensive.
Last year, she and her husband got pregnant after 3 months of dating. They got married a few months later. Both of them are atheist, and her brother (my FBIL) is a minister. He married them and she did not tell him neither of them believe in God. At the time, it wasn’t that big of a deal to me, him marrying them under God, them lieing to him about what they believed so that he would marry them. It was a quick turnaround and she probably didn’t want to cause any more unrest in the family – it’s her life, whatever.
Now, Future Sister-In-Law has decided that she wants to have a baptism this weekend for her son’s 2nd birthday and I am feeling very conflicted. Even though she won’t admit to anyone else in the family that she doesn’t believe in God, she is very open about it outside of the family setting.
Again, I know it is her life, but I DO believe in God. I feel watching her and her husband lie to the entire congregation, promising to raise her child in this religion that she openly mocks and stating she accepts the father, son and holy ghost is just… wrong. I feel uncomfortable being a part of it.
I have no idea WHY she is doing this. If I am completely honest, I think it’s for the money… I can’t imagine her mom pressuring her to do it.
No matter what the reason, none of them are the right reason.
I worry its going to cause an uproar if I don’t go, and since she is a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I don’t want her to throw a fit that draws into the wedding.
What does everyone think?