(Closed) Attack of the FMIL!!!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Maybe it’s her way of dealing with things, she wants to carry on as normal, and so she’s bending everything to fit that way. She’ll have to come around to the fact sooner or later that sadly things will be different for what she’s been used to. I agree it’s unreasonable to want you’r OH’s savings, those are HIS, and for him to move back in? When is he allowed to have his life? Maybe its just taking her a while to adjust being on her own??

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Sometimes people go bonkers when they loose their spouse. I can’t even imagine what my mom went through when my dad died and I cringe at the thought of ever loosing my FH. If she was always greedy and money hungry, that’s one thing. If her recent actions are out of character, that’s something else and I would try and be gentle with her. She’s probably very lonely and possibly worried about her financial security. I wouldn’t let her get her hands on your bf’s personal savings though, that’s a bit strange. I think it’s a good idea for the two of you to set boudaries with her and stick to them, but as long as you think she’s a good person with good intentions and good heart, still be kind to her and try to support her as she goes through the grieving process.

Post # 7
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If she has a history of being verbally and emotionally abusive then I can imagine it makes it much harder to be sympathetic. Does she have any other children? Other close family near by? I don’t think your bf should move in with her if she’s controlling and abusive, I could understand more if they had a great relationship. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but like I said, try and talk to your SO and set up some boudaries and stick to them!

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