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I think dress 1 with a pair of snazzy heels and bright accessories will be great.
Not a fan of dress 2.
Dress 3 doesn't seem dressy enough because of the print?
Dress 4 seems to casual for black tie optional.
I guess I vote Dress 1!
the white is OK with the 2nd dress because its not ALL white... i agree TOTALLY with the previous post- id pick #1..it can be worn again- you can snazz it with awesome heels or even a diffrent sexier belt and jewels! You dont want to be tooo casual with your husband being in the wedding- an im my opinion weddings are supposed to be dressier occasions and the fact that they are having black tie- optional or not means to me that they would prefer to have guests dressed as such.
I also voted for number 1! I love it! My only concern is that it looks super short. Have you gotten a chance to try it on, yet?
They all seem too casual to me. I agree with Mrs. Neutrino, I'd go floor length if he's in a tux.
Agree with PP's who said to go floor length.
Have you looked at rent the runway? I am a HUGE fan because I have a lot of events and don't like to wear the same dresses all the time. They send it to you, you wear it, and then you mail it back (rentals are 4 days). They have a lot of really cute floor length dresses, and they will send you a second size for free.
I love number 1 too yall, i havent been able to try it on yet, but im pretty short so short dresses seem to fit me ok in length- i have some really cute black ankle booties i've been dying to wear so maybe i can wear them with that.
@MrsNeutrino: I thought about floor length - i even talked to my sister about borrowing the bridesmaids dress from my wedding! haha they are black chiffon floor length but i dont want to look like a bridesmaid ya know? i think her colors are red, navy and gold so as long as i stay away from those i might be ok - my bridesmaid dress below:
I have never attended anything super fancy so im at a loss and i really appreciate the input guys! keep it coming.
@delirium.megans: i've heard of rent the runway - i havent looked at it in months but ill check it out!
I'd disagree abotu the floor lenght,most black tie functions I attend, the young women all wear short but fancy dresses, and the people wearing floor lenght gowns tend to be the older women or the bridesmaids. That isn't to say you couldn't wear floor length if you prefered it, but that you can easily wear a short dress.
I think of all your options I like #2 the best but agree that they all look short. I think any of them could be dressed up enough to wear, but it may be worth heading to a store to try some on in person.
@totheislnds: Yep! I think that BM dress would be the best so far. I have been to quite a few black tie events and the girls who are not in floor length always stick out. Sometimes girls even think club wear is appropriate--its not. Here is what I wore to the last Black-tie event I went to. Its good to remember.. its better to be over dressed than under-dressed. And you better believe we bring it in SoFLO :-p
ETA: where did you get these pictures from? I really like the first dress!
@agerard23: I agree, you can easily go short too but I still think these dresses are too casual.
I think the reason why I wouldn't go floor length is because the event is black tie optional not black tie. So my theory is most people have more short dresses than long so I would think more would be in short dresses rather than long.
Husband in a Tux = Wife in a floor length gown. If it was still a black tie optional event and you wore a short dress.. your hubby should be in a dark suit. Usually dress code is determined (besides the formality of the event) by the woman's dress and her escort (your husband) would dress accordingly; not outdo you. But because your DH is in a tux and he is the groomsman so he really doesn't have a choice.. you have to dress accordingly to his attire. Floor length. I also tend to think that black tie optional.. is just a more phonetically pleasing way to say.. black tie. (Just like black tie preffered or whatever else)
@MrsNeutrino: First one is from lightinthebox.com - its where we got our bridesmaids dresses so i figured i would start there, i know a lot of people are against ordering from overseas but i had a great experience with them previously and you cant beat the cost - the others are from lulus.com - now if only i could find a floor length dress as stunning as the one you have on in that picture!
The dress Mrs. Neutrino posted is VERY similar to a BCBG dress my MOH wore for their small initimate wedding. She got it at the BCBG outlet a year or so ago for under $100 I think? They were also selling it on eBay as well.
Gosh, I think it might be the same dress. All the pleating and cross pleating at the bust is the same.
@MrsNeutrino: Exactly.
OP, don't worry about being overdressed. Your FI is a groosman, in a TUX. I think a floorlength dressy gown is the only option here.
I also agree with the ladies that say floor length. I went to a black tie optional wedding in Sept and I wore a floor length gown. The bride only made it optional because she didnt want people to have to go buy a tux/gown if they didnt want to, but she really wanted everyone very dressed up! Unless you are wearing a gown that is the same color as the BM dress you are not going to look like a bridesmaid! I also think all the dresses you posted are too casual for a black tie optional wedding even if you do go for something short I'd choose something else
I would wear a floor length dress. When I see "Black Tie optional" the message I get is that the bride really wanted a formal wedding but for whatever reason was giving some of her guests an "out". Besides that, a floor length dress will match the formality of your husband's tuxedo.
wow!! You have great taste!!! I love all those dresses!!
I think a black tie optional dress in sunny Florida for I'm guessing a younger crowd will lean towards a little more casual. age plays a factor here. I think most will be in the shorter dresses.
I love, love #1 & I also love #2.
Little surprised men are in tuxes for a black tie optional. you would think they would be suits. tux is pretty black tie!
Go black. you will be a smok'in couple!! : )
@regberadaisy: Yep its BCBG! I hate when I buy things full price then they are VERY marked down.. I wanna shoot myself in the foot.. so I don't even look lol!
@totheislnds: Hey, I live in SOFLO.. if you are my size I could totally lend you something! I have a couple dresses :)
haha! I knew it! You would think I would recognize my MOH's wedding dress! It's a great dress, hugs all the right spots.
I agree with others - the dresses you posted are too informal for a black-tie optional wedding where your DH is a groomsman. Floor length is much more appropriate, although if you would prefer a shorter dress, make sure the material of the dress is dressy, as opposed to informal. The materials of the dresses you posted appear to be too informal.
@MrsNeutrino: i completely agree. Even though it says optional, the bride really does want people to dress up and just put option not to be too demanding. Since the groomsmen are in tuxes, and your hubby is a GM, it's only appropriate if you wear a long dress. You can't go wrong with a long black dress like the BM dress you posted.
if you do decide to go with a short dress, I suggest finding something extra fancy to make up for the lack of length. All the ones you posted are far too casual for a black tie (optional) event.
this dress is 79.00 and I believe you can look for limited coupons too!
http://www.thelimited.com/detail/draped-sweeper-dress/3216673
@MrsNeutrino: <3! thank you thank you! where is south florida are you? my husband went to college down there so im really excited to go see his old stomping grounds.
Thanks to everyone for helping me out - clearly i'm new to the whole "formal dress" thing haha! besides my own wedding and prom 10 years ago i dont think i've ever been to a formal event.
@totheislnds: I live in the Ft lauderdale area :)
@Evie19: :) it is a really pretty dress!
If it's black tie optional- I'd go floor length. All the dresses you've showed us are really pretty, but a little too casual.
@maureen9004: thanks! i'm coming to that conclusion - i had no idea what to look for. thank god for the bee!
@totheislnds: Have you heard of rent the runway? Whenever I have an event to go to I rent a gown or dress from them in lieu of buying something I'm never going to wear again: http://www.renttherunway.com/
You totally don't have to do floor length! Our wedding was black tie optional and very few of the girls wore long dresses. Most were in dresses equivalent to #1 or #3. Even e black tie wedding doesn't really require floor length dresses for women anymore--it's much more flexible. I went to awedding in Sept where my DH wore a tux, and I wore a short, black satin cocktail dress from White House Black Market. I was completely appropriate.
If you don't go with floor length, go for a cocktail dress...maybe something with a little shine to the fabric.
I think the dresses shown are just too short for a formal event...esp if your date is going to be in a tux.
I agree with PPs about the dress needing to be floor-length. And a PP mentioned Rent the Runway, they have some gorgeous dresses, you should check it out.
I dont think you need floor length, but I do think all of those dresses are too casual. Our wedding is Black Tie Optional, and I'm expecting cocktail attire and tuxes.
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Hey Yall,
I have a wedding to attend in December in South Florida that is black tie optional..My husband is a groomsmen and will be decked out in a sexy tux but im at a loss as to what i should wear, i dont want to be too overdressed, or too underdressed...what would you choose? feel free to throw out suggestions too..i want something that is sexy yet sophisticated, It will be winter obviously (though south florida doesnt get too cold) and it will be in a catholic chruch so nothing too revealing but im not against showing a little skin either. Also i dont want it to break the bank - if i could keep it under $70 i would be super happy.
dress 1: is this too casual?
dress 2: how about this? is the white ok?
Dress 3
Dress 4:
Thanks!