(Closed) Attending an acquaintenance’s wedding as a friend’s date?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
153 posts
Blushing bee

When is the RSVP due?  Do you still have time to think it over?  Were you at least cordial with the bride as you’re acquaintances?

I’m probably in the minority, but I believe that if you invite someone +1, then they can invite whoever they want within reason.  I would draw the line on a +1 being a child or an abusive ex-signifant other.  At several weddings I’ve attended, friends brought friends as dates.  Most of the time, the bride barely notices…she’s basking in the glow of just being married!

However, if you don’t feel comfortable with it, then you should tell your friend no.  You don’t want to feel miserable when it should be a happy occasion. 


Post # 4
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Does your friend have a +1? Often if a person isn’t married, engaged, or in a significant relationship, the bride and groom won’t give them a +1 (if there are space considerations). If she got a +1, then I don’t think the bride would mind who the +1 is, but your friend may want to check to be on the safe side. 

Post # 5
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m actually in a similar situation but as the bride.

There’s a coworker(B) that is good friends with another coworker (A) whom I do plan on inviting with a +1. Another coworker (C) told me that coworker A will most likely bring coworker B as his date so I might as well invite coworker B. I decided I’m not inviting coworker B myself because I’m really not that close to her but would have no issues if coworker A brings B with him to my wedding as his date. Hehe. Did that make sense?

But do what’s comfortable to you!

Post # 7
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think going as her date is totally fine. If you give someone a +1, I think they can bring whomever they want (within reason as someone else said—a 2-year-old might not fit the bill), even if it is not exactly who you anticipated it would have been. I had someone request to bring their teenaged child to the wedding as their date instead of their husband because the husband had to work. It’s not like you specify "you must be romantically interested in your date" on the invitation! Don’t worry about it and have a good time. Just make sure your friend remembers to put down your name as her guest on the RSVP card so that everyone is on the same page.

Post # 8
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

As a sorority girl, I think it’s totally fine – go if you want to go. There are a lot of sisters that I didn’t invite, because I’m not that close to them, or I felt like if I invited her, then I would have to invite 10 more people. That doesn’t mean I don’t want them to come, it just means there wasn’t space. A guest is a guest – that can be a boyfriend, friend, some one off the street (though hopefully not). Go and have fun!

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