Attention starved, spoiled, better than everyone cousin! Oy vey!

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
3642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have a cousin like this. She showed up at the church the morning of my wedding, hours before the ceremony, crying that she had hurt her ankle and looking for my dad (a doctor), I don’t know, to see if he could fix it or something? Doesn’t even make sense. She got ready in the bathroom immediately outside the bridal suite and came out wearing a white dress and six inch high heels. With a “hurt” ankle.

You know what though? I barely even noticed her shenanigans. It was my wedding day — I was focused on other things. Hopefully you’ll be able to look past any weird stuff that happens and just enjoy the day.

Post # 3
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86 posts
Worker bee

If it were up to me, I definitely wouldnt invite her.  But i understand that she’s your family and if you want her there, go for it.  Your wedding will be very special and the people you’re inviting truly care about you and likely will not be focusing on her.  Don’t give in to her drama, because that’s exactly what she wants. Attention.  Ignore her, and soon everyone else will, and hopefully she will cut the shit. Good Luck!

Post # 4
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Eh, you’re setting yourself up for the craziness at your wedding. You know what to expect and I’m sure you’ll get it. You cut off contact with Jane but yet you’ want her at your wedding? I assure you that no one who calls me a horrible person or says my wedding will look shitty will be coming to my wedding. But then I’m not one who believes in the whole ‘they’re family so of course they get an invite’ thing.

Post # 5
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2817 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a relative rather like this. I didn’t invite her to my wedding. She hasn’t spoken to me since, but I don’t regret it ONE bit. I don’t care if I never hear from that basketcase again. 

Post # 6
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3630 posts
Sugar bee

I’d suggest to make it an adults only wedding, so she can’t make herself AND her 3 year old, the center of attention, too.

I have a SIL, who for decades has pulled narcissistic and histrionic crap. Luckily, when my 1st child married they were so royally P-Od their children were not invited, they didn’t even bother to RSVP. That sealed their fate, in not getting an invitation to our next child’s wedding. Yee-Hah!

Post # 8
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3630 posts
Sugar bee

SURE! You make up the guestlist and let her have a hissy fit. Sounds like he behaves like a child, anyway.

The children in the wedding get a free pass (the kids of the couple always do, and sometimes nieces/nephews, if you want them there). If you could arrange for childcare for your best friends kids, or include her daughter in the bridal party (nursing infants get free pass, too) = you’d have it made.

My niece wanted to bring her 17 month old to my daughter’s wedding; she thought it would be a great way to introduce him to the family. We said no and she ended up not coming. She didn’t have kids on her guest list and referred to him as “the little monster” in her e-mail, so we were dumbfounded, at her request.

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