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huh? I really need to catch up on this show!
well, since I got married just after turning 23, I don't think waiting until 25 is the best choice for everyone.
But I do think you should at the bare minimum be out of high school. Preferably, though, you'll go to college, live on your own for a while, get a little life experience before getting married. {engagement I don't care as much...since a wedding could always be a ways off}
I don't know about 25, I was 23 when we got engaged (turned 24 about 20 days later.) My thoughts on the appropriate age is a) you need to finish college and get a job or b) have a job and know you can support yourself if you ever need to. Thinking about these things really makes you consider what marriage is.
And FYI, Rachael and Fin do not have either of these things.
Depends on the circumstances - you can be 25, unemployed, no degree, not settled down at all. Whilst you can be younger than 25, just finishing college, getting ready to be in a full time job, etc.
I despise Glee, but I think you placing an age on being ready to get married is wrong. Someone younger than 25 (20, say) can be more mature than some 25 year olds and more stable.
very true! i guess I shouldn't just say 25... but SOME life experience fo sho!
I am two episodes behind dang it!!! But yes, IMO they are too immature.
I don't think they are too young because of their actual age but because of their emotional maturity.
Hmm I think "too young" is really dependent on the individuals themselves rather than just their age.
I will say that in this fictional case yes because it is clear that Rachel has hopes and aspirations that she wants to see through before I think she would be ready to settle down. For her I see marriage as something that might hold her back from taking the risks that her dream lifestyle might require.
Oh, absolutely! I can't imagine what would've happened if I got engaged to my high school boyfriend! 
@MrsMaine: i know, right? or my college boyfriend. or my after college boyrfriend... LOL!
@mtnhoney: Hahaha! Exactly. You don't even know who YOU are at that point. And that's coming from someone who got married fairly young (23!)
Ok, so this is what I think of glee, lol:
However, yes, if these two characters are still in high school, then they may be too young! I have been 5 different people since I was a teenager, you know?
I agree you need to be a certain stage in life where you are settled, this is not a specific age - but definately when you have your own place, pay the bills, earn a wage and are in a happy relationship etc etc
In high school my hormones hadnt even settled down yet.. let alone settling down into marriage haha
I think readiness to get married is totally based on emotional maturity rather than biological age. My grandparents got married two weeks after high school graduation, both at 17. My grandpa joined the Marines and off they went. They've been married over 50 years now. But that's real life, not Glee. I think the characters are definitely not mature enough to handle marriage if it was actually real life. ;-)
Hey now, let's not be hating on high school boyfriends! I wouldn't have married my high school boyfriend in high school, but 6 years later I can't imagine not marrying him.
@Juliepants: That is TV gold in the making right there! My FI suffered through an episode of Glee last week and he said "so they sing throughout the entire show? Really?" So clueless!
I think it's too young to be engaged while IN high school. But nothing wrong with being engaged to your high school sweetheart :)
Generally speaking, I think everyone should experience life as an independent, out-of-college adult (meaning having a job, having a place of your own, and paying your own bills) before getting engaged.
They're definitely too young! I'd say you at least have to be finished with college before getting engaged, and if you didn't go to college, at least 21, the age of a graduating college student.
Wow, thanks for the spoiler in the heading. Most countries are a few weeks behind the US.
@brenda.m.fields: Agree!
I think they are getting married because they are scared, not because they really want (or understand) to spend the rest of their lives together. They just are scared of the unknow that comes with making a major life transition. It will be interesting to see what they do with the storyline!
At this point I feel like age is just a number...I mean 72 day marriages are apparently acceptable! 
I agreed with Quinn too! I thought for sure Rachel was going to turn him down.
@Roux: OMG I'm sorry about that, and I thought I was behind because I watched it a few days late online.
i should just stop with these polls.
Yes, much too young but like the PP's have said, I don't necessarily think that 25 is the magic number. It just happened to be for us (DH and I were both 25 when we got married) but it's not for everyone. I have a number of friends who were married between 21-23 and they have great marriages.
To the poster that said, "what would have happened if I married my high school boyfriend?" or something to that affect - I am! But 5 years later. Now, we didn't get engaged in high school, in fact not til this last year, but we've known for a looong time we were getting married.
So I guess to answer the poll, I chose option 3 because I know sometimes it works out - but most times it does not. :)
I think.. this storyline isn't over. I'm predicting Rachel will get into Nyada (or some other opportunity along those lines) and the engagement will be called off. Emotionally, yes, way too young - IN THIS CASE. ;)
@jaguar: I agree.
While we're discussing Glee, does anyone else only watch it for the musical numbers? They are totally lameing it up this season and it's getting to the point where it's almost hard to stand. The scene with Rachel, Finn and Kurt at Blaines house was a bit too lollipop for me.
@UpstateCait: Yeah it's pretty bad, but for some reason, I care about the story lines. And of course I like the singing.
I really don't think so! I actually did not agree with what Quinn had to say about it! It made no sense, and she was clearly only speaking from the point of view of having no one in her life. Considering this is a wedding board site I would think the majority of people around here would agree that you can still achieve all of your wildest dreams while being engaged/married.
Now, is it a little too young, yes. They could have waited, but for the sake of the show I actually love that they are engaged! They've been through so much, and are most likely moving to NYC next year together. They can just have a long engagement. I love it!
@MissBoPeep: Agreed.
I don't watch the show so I don't really have an opinion on that, but I think it's about maturity, not age. Not everyone goes to college so I don't think that should be a factor in whether you're "ready" or mature enough to get married. I'm marrying my high school sweetheart and I skipped college and went straight into the military, as did FI. Having some life experience is a good thing, yes, but life experience doesn't equal the same thing to everyone.
GAH! thanks for putting a spoiler in the title!!
and yes. I don't care what anybody says. high school kids are too young to be engaged in this day and age. maybe it was ok during shakesperian times, but now, not so much.
@UpstateCait: yes, the whole thing is too cheesy for me sometimes, and I love the singing. I watch it online a few days late (again, I am SO sorry for the spoiler in this post! dumb me) and I fast-forwarded through that bedroom scene. ick.
I'm so glad that some people marry their high school sweethearts and are happy. For those of us who didn't find their vocational calling or their life partner until their 30's, like myself, Quinn's lil' monologue was perfect.
anyway, staying out of this now, and won't be spoiling anyone else's Glee. but I do know the actors that are coming in to play Rachel's Dads... finally!!
I got engaged to Fi 2 months after HS graduation. Mind you I will out of HS for 5 years this june (wow im starting to feel old) You can have a long engagement and be fine!
I found it super irritating that the concept of "Stay together, but don't get engaged" wasn't even discussed. They only presented the options of "get married" or "break up".
Yes, they are way, way, way too young.
I've know that I've wanted to marry my FI since I was 16!! Yes I've changed, and he's changed, and my dreams and fantasties of what our wedding day will be like have changed, and sure, our love has changed. But ALL these years later our relationship is constant. I don't think age matters when it comes to love. Sometimes you get it right at 16, sometimes you're still getting it wrong at 60!
I normally say there is a huge difference between too young and too immature, but in this case, they haven't even graduated high school and they are WAY too immature!
I think MINIMUM 19 (and really, I think you should be waiting until early 20's, but that's just me) and for the two of them they are SO immature! They have different life goals, haven't discussed their future besides "I'm going to be a theatre star!" and they have a weak relationship that is just healing.
I hope her dads manage to work their plan and split the engagement.
I think the topper was that they want to get married in a few MONTHS now! :| WHO IS PAYING FOR THIS WEDDING!?!!!
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ok, I know it's just a TV show, but I wanted to poll the hive....
do you think Rachel and Finn are too young to be engaged? I mean, they're not even out of highschool! I really appreciated Quinn's take on the subject, and I thought she was right on.
Nevertheless, Rachel got swept up in the 'you're the love of my life' feeling, they sang a love duet, and she said yes.
my vote is, obviously, YES THEY ARE TOO YOUNG! I personally think everyone should wait until they are 25 before even considering settling down.