Post # 1
Similar to the way in which my parents will respond to a question asked by the officiant when we reach the end of the aisle, I thought it would be nice for the audience to have a question asked of them, to which they can all respond in unison (I would give directions in the program). That way everyone can feel like part of the ceremony.
Does anyone have any ideas as to what that participation might be?
Maybe the officiant can say “Who witnesses the union of — and —?” and the audience can respond “We witness the union of — and — and give them our blessing.”
Have any of you been to weddings where something similar occurred? I would love some input.
Post # 3
I’ve heard this done in older traditional weddings. You might look up liturgy for Catholic or Lutheran weddings, there are some examples you can use there. They also have some examples in the liturgy for baptisms you could adapt.
Post # 4
Here is what we had:
Rabbi: Will you, the families and friends of 2dBride and NotFroofy, support and uphold them in their marriage now and in the years to come?
Congregation: We will.
Post # 5
I really like that idea. I’m going to propose that to my FI.
I like the wording you used @2dBride !
Post # 6
Thanks for the replies and suggestions!
@2dBride: that is very lovely.
I just love the idea of everyone joining and getting a chance to take part.
Post # 7
We had guest participate in the ceremony. I wanted to do something to recognize everyone’s support. A few people told me they liked this part. This is what we did:
Officiant: Please stand for the vows of family and friends.
J and S have chosen you, their friends and family, to be here on this day as witnesses to their marriage. It has been their decision to bind themselves by marriage, and their lives will be strengthened and enriched by the support you give. Friends and family, after each question, please respond “I will”
Friends and family, will you support J and S in their marriage?
Family & Friends: I will.
Friends and family, Will you celebrate with them, encourage them, remind them of this day?
F&F: I will.
Friends and family, will you help them celebrate their marriage, by supporting them by standing beside them and never between them?
F&F: I will.